The reason why feminism has been so successful at defining every aspect of gender and running all our institutions is that men generally do not want to play the victim game (it doesn't suit the male temperament) PLUS men love to be chivalrous and gynocentric. This means men tend to spoil women rotten and indulge their naturally higher neuroticism. Which not only destroys society but also makes women miserable.
I would argue that it is men's MORAL DUTY to point out millions of ways they suffer and carry society on their backs... not to play the victim, but to deflate feminism's victim (and threat) narrative by pointing out how women actually have it pretty good and men are women's greatest allies (not oppressors) and always have been.
Most women cannot afford to be mothers, so no they don't get to choose (by mother I mean raising children and not just giving birth). To be a mother requires a man to provide the support - the unique role of a father, like you say.
All of this needs repairing ..... and it begins with dismantling patriarchy theory.
Oh, I agree enthusiastically about the need to end the patriarchy theory (and all of the other conspiracy theories of history that have become fashionable due to wokism).
And I agree enthusiastically about the MORAL duty of men to speak truth to power (to borrow an expression that has become so popular among feminists and their woke allies). Too many men either forget or ignore the fact that misandry is ultimately a moral problem, not only a psychological, sociological or economic one.
Whether women can "afford" to be mothers or not is another matter. Most women have always had to worry about poverty, and most women have always had to work in the fields (with men). Nonetheless, most women continued to want and have children. During the Depression and World War II, many women postponed motherhood, it's true, but later on, in better times, were very eager to start families (which led to the "baby boom").
I agree that mothering is not only about giving birth to children but also rearing them, just as fathering is not only about providing material resources for children but also about guiding them from the safety of home into the challenging world beyond home.
The reason why feminism has been so successful at defining every aspect of gender and running all our institutions is that men generally do not want to play the victim game (it doesn't suit the male temperament) PLUS men love to be chivalrous and gynocentric. This means men tend to spoil women rotten and indulge their naturally higher neuroticism. Which not only destroys society but also makes women miserable.
I would argue that it is men's MORAL DUTY to point out millions of ways they suffer and carry society on their backs... not to play the victim, but to deflate feminism's victim (and threat) narrative by pointing out how women actually have it pretty good and men are women's greatest allies (not oppressors) and always have been.
Most women cannot afford to be mothers, so no they don't get to choose (by mother I mean raising children and not just giving birth). To be a mother requires a man to provide the support - the unique role of a father, like you say.
All of this needs repairing ..... and it begins with dismantling patriarchy theory.
Oh, I agree enthusiastically about the need to end the patriarchy theory (and all of the other conspiracy theories of history that have become fashionable due to wokism).
And I agree enthusiastically about the MORAL duty of men to speak truth to power (to borrow an expression that has become so popular among feminists and their woke allies). Too many men either forget or ignore the fact that misandry is ultimately a moral problem, not only a psychological, sociological or economic one.
Whether women can "afford" to be mothers or not is another matter. Most women have always had to worry about poverty, and most women have always had to work in the fields (with men). Nonetheless, most women continued to want and have children. During the Depression and World War II, many women postponed motherhood, it's true, but later on, in better times, were very eager to start families (which led to the "baby boom").
I agree that mothering is not only about giving birth to children but also rearing them, just as fathering is not only about providing material resources for children but also about guiding them from the safety of home into the challenging world beyond home.