My mother was indoctrinated into feminism at Carlton University in the late 1970s and has inflicted rampant misandry on me my entire life.
She didn't believe that women were superior to men. She believed that mothers had a duty to psychiatrically cripple ( inflict environmentally induced mental illness ) on their male offspring and sabotage their early education and cognitive development in order that adults females would be able compete with them and dominate them.
For example she thought that mothers should prevent young boys from socializing during the early childhood critical period in which a child needs to find their peer group or they become asocial for life in order that as men they would be completely dependent on females for all social interaction. She refused to allow me to participate in any extracurricular activities until my younger sister, who was 2 years younger and three years behind me in school, got registered in an activity. I wanted to take piano lesions and she flat out told me "no, your sister gets an activity first". She put my sister in gymnastics and then ballet, my mother even took ballet and piano lessons her self but refused to allow be to take classes in either.
But my sister was not interested in either and cried her way out of them. My mother also demanded the school skip my sister ahead and hold me back so that we were both in the same grade. My mother refused to allow me to play D&D unless my sister played also, she had no interest in the game, and if the 9 year dungeon master didn't propose marriage to my 5 year old sister after the game my mother screamed at him and he was never allowed back. She would also encourage grown men to beat me for no reason then the joy of being cruel.
That is a horrible childhood. I too had my self-esteem pummeled, told to stop being so selfish and put my sister first, stop asking for this or that, and so on. It was seen as a sign of "male aggressiveness" to be assertive.
Then later, middle school and high school, being chastized for being passive and indecisive. No awareness of what she had done had consequences.
The only saving grace was that my parents were (and are) still together, so he could do some small measure of counterprogramming though often he was emotionally abused for doing so.
One result has been pretty lonely life, though I do have a good group of close friends. But I always feel more comfortable alone, an old habit of emotional protection.
Yes, it is a common story.
My mother was indoctrinated into feminism at Carlton University in the late 1970s and has inflicted rampant misandry on me my entire life.
She didn't believe that women were superior to men. She believed that mothers had a duty to psychiatrically cripple ( inflict environmentally induced mental illness ) on their male offspring and sabotage their early education and cognitive development in order that adults females would be able compete with them and dominate them.
For example she thought that mothers should prevent young boys from socializing during the early childhood critical period in which a child needs to find their peer group or they become asocial for life in order that as men they would be completely dependent on females for all social interaction. She refused to allow me to participate in any extracurricular activities until my younger sister, who was 2 years younger and three years behind me in school, got registered in an activity. I wanted to take piano lesions and she flat out told me "no, your sister gets an activity first". She put my sister in gymnastics and then ballet, my mother even took ballet and piano lessons her self but refused to allow be to take classes in either.
But my sister was not interested in either and cried her way out of them. My mother also demanded the school skip my sister ahead and hold me back so that we were both in the same grade. My mother refused to allow me to play D&D unless my sister played also, she had no interest in the game, and if the 9 year dungeon master didn't propose marriage to my 5 year old sister after the game my mother screamed at him and he was never allowed back. She would also encourage grown men to beat me for no reason then the joy of being cruel.
Hats off to a fellow D&D player!
That is a horrible childhood. I too had my self-esteem pummeled, told to stop being so selfish and put my sister first, stop asking for this or that, and so on. It was seen as a sign of "male aggressiveness" to be assertive.
Then later, middle school and high school, being chastized for being passive and indecisive. No awareness of what she had done had consequences.
The only saving grace was that my parents were (and are) still together, so he could do some small measure of counterprogramming though often he was emotionally abused for doing so.
One result has been pretty lonely life, though I do have a good group of close friends. But I always feel more comfortable alone, an old habit of emotional protection.