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Thanks, Janice, for shining some light on these dishonest feminist spiels. Don't bother understanding men. The aim is to fix them so they meet women's expectations. What more could men aspire to? Rage rabbit holes? Somebody thinks of a cute phrase and it becomes a syndrome. The Wall Street Journal used to be made of better stuff.

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Oct 17, 2023Liked by Janice Fiamengo

Dr. Fiamengo has once again hit the nail on the head. Feminism has been remarkably successful in deploying casuistic strategies to obtain total control of and subsequently weaponize the semiotics of rage and victimhood. As Dr. Fiamengo's expert analysis of these incidents shows, the feminist agenda has reached a point where we are to believe that woman's rage is evidence unto itself of the moral superiority of women and their struggle against injustice while man's rage is to be accepted a priori of his degeneracy and misogyny. This reminds me of a chilling episode I experienced many years ago shortly after marrying my wife. She announced to me that she wanted to have one day a week where she could unleash her rage and I would agree to endure the abuse without retreating, responding, or holding her responsible in any way for her behavior; she had come across this idea in one of the feminist books that she ardently read and found it brilliant. Although we'd been together for nearly three years before getting married, I had no idea that she was so filled with rage. Needless to say, there was no mention of me being afforded a time slot to spew vitriol at her (nor would I have wanted even five minutes a week for such a purpose; the idea seemed abhorrent to me). I must have gone completely pale as the blood drained from my face upon learning that the person I had just chosen as my life partner would like to schedule weekly abuse. After spending years building monuments to her rage and sense of victimhood, I finally escaped that marriage having learned that it's impossible for a man and woman to have an equal partnership in a culture that enables women to wield such immense power over their mates while degrading and infantilizing men.

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Oct 16, 2023Liked by Janice Fiamengo

They, the feminists have achieved what they set out to do. Destroying marriage. Making heterosexual relationships a minefield for men.

Now they complain men are bailing out. Heterophobia has created an extremely toxic environment for heterosexual men and I think it is too late to turn the clock back.

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Another great piece Janice. This sentence really encapsulates much of our problem:

By telling men that what they see in the world is not really there, they will coach them in greater

compliance.

Oh so true. And the most obvious omission is any, and I mean any reference to women evaluating themselves to see their own misandry and narcissism. Banish the thought. It's the mens!

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Oct 16, 2023Liked by Janice Fiamengo

There's a tremendous amount going on behind the scenes - of which these people are painfully ignorant. Thanks to YouTube mens' channels, men-advisors and authors like Richard Cooper - but most of all, the TikTok videos put up by "modern" Western women denigrating man, setting forth their standards (the "sixes" - six feet tall, six pack abdomen, six inches in the pants, six hundred horsepower car, six figure salary, six months out of a relationship, etc.) combined with the hard anal rape of "family law courts," Western men are deciding it's just not worth the risk of sticking their heads in that noose. David's Bridal - the largest bridal shop in North America, just went bankrupt. I wonder why.

But Western men still want a mate and a family; they just don't want Western women. What to do ...

I just finished up a second divorce at age seventy; my nephew lost his wife a year ago (how careless of him!) and just started trying the "dating apps." He has everything going for him but one: he's 5'6". The one date he went on was a bloody disaster. Guess what he's doing? At MY recommendation he started looking at the Philippines. Night and day. He's traveling there over Thanksgiving to meet a prospective girlfriend, with intentions of marriage if it all works out. And you know what? I may just go with him.

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Excellent post! The narcissism on display here is unreal. “You don't deserve my attention, so I will ridicule you and then ignore you. What? You're not going to beg me for my attention? What's wrong with you?! I *order you* to pay attention to me, and if you don't, I will escalate the lecturing and guilt-tripping until you do!”

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Oct 16, 2023·edited Oct 16, 2023Liked by Janice Fiamengo

<irony alert>

God forbid that these entitled princesses should ever consider that it may be some things in them that need change.

But of course that is the entire thrust of victim culture and its illusory entitlements so speciously claimed.

the cause of grief, real or imagined is always external.

Thus their misery will be eternal

<end irony>

and while on the subject of princesses I take it that you remember the classic fairy tale "The Princess and the Pea" ?

This idea occurred to me the other day and it is thus:

Every aspiring princess NEEDS her pea for she can only show the superiority of her sensitivity and the refinement of her breeding by having something trivial to complain about. This something is such that more gross souls like men and other plebs never even notice .

After all today's aspiring princesses do not have mercy kindness nobility or charity, only the bitter complaint of the aggrieved and sensitive soul

And , I suggest, such rituals as feminist "consciousness raising" - whereby, for example, a friend of mine left her husband after reading Germaine Greer back then - is where aspiring princesses get their peas and thus their excuse for complaining.

If you like this feel free to use it

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Oct 17, 2023·edited Oct 17, 2023Liked by Janice Fiamengo

Thanks, Janice!

In 2021, in the UK, for the first time in history, a majority of new births came to single mothers.

The most vulnerable of all citizens, new- borns, are mainly in the exclusive care of women. Women whose collective mind- set is exemplified, (for want of all but the most rare of exceptions,) by such careless, fascistic, hate- filled narratives.

It seems to me that boys wanting to be girls is the new rock 'n' roll. They inhabit a world in which to be male is to be sub- human. (Which is how the Nazis characterised those they sent to Auschwitz, etc.)

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Oct 16, 2023Liked by Janice Fiamengo

IMHO, the types of women who despise men in general should just be honest and tell men they aren't interested, as opposed to trying to convince themselves (and the rest of us) that the men are to blame for the feelings these women have. If I were a young single male looking for a partner, I would rather know up front whether or not a young lady has these biases. If so, rather than trying to convince her otherwise, I would not waste my time and I would look for somebody who is more realistic about life. Ironically, there also seems to be no end of videos on-line about women in their mid 30's and older who seem to desperately want to find a partner and can't understand why they are having such a difficult time. Mr Aaron Renn writes with great insight and clarity on the issue of the men and the current problems they are having. One of his points is that many of the people writing about "the problems with men" are women, and it seems they seem to think that if only men would be more like them, they would be ok. These women complain about the male influencers, without realizing that (some) men are attracted to these influencers because they represent things that appeal to the male psyche.

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Oct 16, 2023Liked by Janice Fiamengo

Janice, this is good work. CNN is such trash.

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Oct 17, 2023Liked by Janice Fiamengo

Ah, the infinite well of compassion feminist women have... for themselves. Same old story.

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Oct 17, 2023Liked by Janice Fiamengo

I’m amused by the feminists and simps who think that isolated men, whom they collectively despised are “entitled” because they want emotional connection with a sympathetic woman, and, after being repeatedly condemned as evil for having both sexual urges and emotional needs, seek a way to satisfy their need for human connection. Misandry is very much the default.

What you describe is a deep hostility to working class and lower middle-class men, mostly, though not exclusively, White by women (mostly, though not exclusively White) who think of men as disposable. When they say they want to have simple human connection they’re laughed at. Then we see the experts announce that they deserve to suffer because of their “entitlement.”

Then we see the experts wondering why more and more men wanting a female person who isn’t a complete cunt.

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Oct 16, 2023Liked by Janice Fiamengo

Yes. Where is the encouragement for women to develop appreciation of men's contribution, their blood, sweat and body-wrecked tears without which women (in general) simply wouldn't have been enjoying their incredibly privileged lives in our era? For that matter, how about some appreciation for the largely male parliaments who supported women's suffrage and over only a century or so (and through fair-mindedness and rational consideration) facilitated such huge changes in women's roles, options and rights, unprecedented in the history of human societies.

Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery but feminists imitate only the shallow aspects of traditional maleness such as wearing suits and taking up high-paid professions. It would be great if they imitated more fair-mindedness, taking responsibility, self-sacrifice, bravery, loyalty, honest rational consideration and prioritising their life partner's happiness, qualities long associated with masculinity. How toxic huh?

The predominance of women in tertiary education will be due to many factors including female dominance over earlier education and women's preference to be paid highly for comfortable roles in air conditioned offices rather than the uncomfortable, often lower-paid jobs that men overwhelmingly undertake. Where are the screams demanding gender equality in the teaching profession? I don't care whether those who designed the bridge I use were male or female as long as it stays up (I can safely assume that the dangerous, dirty, uncomfortable work of actually building the bridge was carried out totally or almost totally by men...), but I care a lot that my children are influenced during their schooling by a balance of both male and female approaches and role models. Gender equality in high-paid professions, stem subjects etc serves only feminist self-interest. It's telling that where gender equality would serve the interests of society such as in education, feminists don't care at all about inequality so long as it's in their favour.

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Just more evidence as far as I can see that people with manipulative personality defects tend to gravitate towards positions of power where they can influence ever greater numbers. And where else can you have more of an impact on large numbers of people than in the 'news' media? How does the media do that? By 'creating' drama and conflict between groups and individuals - Orwell's 'two minutes of hate' as embedded programming if you like.

The various fake wars on terror, drugs and viruses have had nothing like the longevity or mileage obtained from the manufactured 'war between the sexes'. And like most wars, it began with several 'false flag' events back in the 60s and 70s. The modern use of the term 'false flag' involves one side attacking their own members and blaming it on the other side. Straw men are much easier to defeat than real men.

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Notice how feminists always point to women's success in traditional masculine spheres (academia, business, politics) as evidence for their desirability as a mate. They either don't know or don't care what men desire in women. It seems more likely they don't care, as they also teach women to despise men and expect men to always ask for more.

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Oct 16, 2023Liked by Janice Fiamengo

Thanks for these articulate poignant points.

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