Janice always surprises me with her insightful perspective and informs me with arguments and evidence of which I was not aware. Sometimes I imagine I am up to speed, and then Janice goes shooting by, and I have to try to catch up. I am very grateful for her.
Oct 1, 2022·edited Oct 1, 2022Liked by Janice Fiamengo
A great look at gynocentrism, how western society is tailored toward and focused on the needs of girls and women, not boys and men. Are you familiar with the blog, https://gynocentrism.com/ ? This blog is written by Peter Wright, who has authored some books. It all stems from Chivalry being the start of gynocentric behavior in the west, from 12th Century AD or somewhere thereabouts, as Peter Wright describes.
Also, the book, the Myth of Male Power, by Dr. Warren Farrell, explains how the average man is marginalized and just invisible.
Also, boys' bodies? Circumcision is MALE GENITAL MUTILATION. But, who cares? Even most men don't care because they are so emotionally shut down and afraid of being vulnerable, or afraid to feel at all.
There is a company, Foregen, https://www.foregen.org/ , that is nearly in phase 3 of 3 human trials which lasts for one year, starting on April 1st 2023 - where they will be regrowing foreskins, which is healthy, densely innervated erogenous tissue, 15 square inches, with mucosal lining, fine touch receptors, ridged band, Meisner's corpuscles, and other musculature...all with the patients own body cells.
The above is a link to the intro video of this biotech company that is currently in phase 2 of 3 animal trials and has received over $1.3 Million dollars of donations, and that number is many months old. All trials have been successful so far, and the underlying technology (ECM, extracellular matrix technology) is already FDA approved, they just need this particular application of this already approved technology to be approved!
I saw a post on Facebook from the Telegraph of a young man that was raped by a young woman, and there was 1000 laughing emojis, mostly from men! This is the link to the FB Page below - I can't get the direct link to the post for some reason:
We teach men to "be tough", and by that, we tell them to suppress emotion, unless it is anger, being crass, and making dark jokes of tragedy, being in touch with our grief isn't taught in western society - I've unlearned this with EMDR psychotherapy, and Somatic Experiencing, Psychedelic assisted psychotherapy, journaling, Holotropic Breathwork, etc. I feel alive. In high school, about 7 years ago, I was so numbed out, emotionally dumb, breathing in my chest, tired but wired, couldn't focus in school, got a 2.8 GPA, barely graduated. Then in college I kept a 4.0, got over $20,000 in scholarships... turned it all around. I got referred to the school psychologist once in high school, I can't remember what she even said, but they never spoke to me again...it wasn't until 4 or 5 years later that I found an EMDR therapist of my own accord after changing my diet, doing ice baths, infrared sauna etc. - most of my autoimmune symptoms were psychosomatic.
I digress - but, the boys really need help.
Back to male genital mutilation.
It's maddening to me that circumcision is a joke in crappy television and movies. It's so hurtful, and emotionally callous men make jokes about it, and so do women.
Foregen will remedy this, at least for those in the know.
The majority of nerve endings are in the foreskin, more than the head/glans of the penis! And it keeps the head of the penis soft and smooth and lubricated, instead of dried out and keratinized. Circumcisions reduces sexual pleasure for men and women.
Look at the documentary, The American Circumcision, by Brendon Marotta.
My parents know what they did was wrong, it happened to my dad, too. But, is in pretty deep denial about how negative the impact is, still.
The older generations are so numbed out, and much of that has to do with their upbringing and the birth/preverbal trauma of being trapped in incubators without human contact for months, the trauma that the hospital puts babies through. Hospitals have been routinely traumatizing and putting generations of American's in fight/flight/freeze mode for decades and decades.
The current medical establishment is not trauma informed.
Babies have nervous systems, you can put them in fight or flight, therefore, and they can, as a result, produce cortisol stress hormone and this stunts their development! Also, the more childhood trauma, the more autoimmune illness! Look at the San Diego Adverse Childhood Event (ACE) score study!
For more info on trauma, I work with a somatic practioner, Irene Lyon, who has a husband, Seth Lyon, and they both are knowledgeable about medical trauma, preverbal trauma, birth trauma, transgenerational trauma. All based on the work of Dr. Peter Levine, Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk (The Body Keeps the Score), Dr. Moshe Feldenkrais, Kathy Kain, Dr. Gabor Mate.
Here is a quote from Seth Lyon:
"Underneath all that, I was circumcised – an incredibly traumatic experience which linked violence and violation with the sexual organs in the somatic unconscious, and also established an unconscious hatred of the feminine because my mother did not protect me from that experience, and was reinforced by my isolation and separation from her in an incubator due to being born six weeks premature."
Even Seth, in his blog post is a bit harsh on men and I feel he is shaming men's sexuality, a bit.
Ask any sex therapist, it is known that men have more trouble communicating what they like sexually than women. Women are thought to be exploring their body if they have sex toys, but men??? They're considered "Gross".
Look at the book, "Men in Love", by Nancy Friday - she discusses how most men have had their sexuality shamed growing up, so they develop masochistic sexual kinks, some of the men like to be called dirty, then after the men are shamed, like they were growing up, they feel they have earned sex.
It's so twisted.
We have shaped boys into treating themselves like crap.
We teach girls to have boundaries, to know how to say, "no". But boys? We don't teach boundaries, we teach them to be masochistic beasts of burden.
I am so fed up with the west.
I like Jordan Peterson, but he speaks from a gynocentric frame, still - where he insinuates men serving women, almost thoughtlessly, like we're sacrificial pawns.
AND - Peterson talks about how gender transitioning is mutiliation! But he is silent on circumcision! Gabor Mate, a Jewish man, is also silent on circumcision, but he acknowledges that trauma is trapped survival stress that can occur in the womb and at birth.....
I wish boys were treated with respect, loved and honored as much as girls were.
The somatic experiencing practices that I'm doing have helped to heal me so much more, but there is a deep anger and grief within me that I am gradually processing.
Here is Irene Lyon's free 3 part course on Trauma, the different types of trauma, the signs of trauma, how our nervous system is wired through coregulation with our parents, caregivers, etc.
Male genital mutilation is a failure of the generations of my father, my grandfather, and so on. All these quiet men, that lead quiet lives of desperation...
Saying nothing, suppressing your emotion, makes you numb and dumb. Trauma prevents you from being present, present with your loved one and with your work, etc.
Suppression is not strength. Mindfulness of the body and fully expressing and processing grief and anger, that is what is healthy. Holding it in leads to disassociation...
Jordan Peterson is with the Daily Wire, owned by Ben Shapiro, a Jewish man who thinks that circumcision is okay, but calls gender reassignment mutilation.
Above is a video of Ben Shapiro and Andrew Yang, where they both gloss over circumcision as being a human rights violation.
So many conservatives treat boys like garbage.
Liberals want to feminize boys, and conservatives want to make boys unfeeling macho men - no care as to whether they are mutilated or not, just be a self sacrificial pawn that serves your woman and your country, a masochistic beast of burden, a walking ATM machine, a human doing not a human being, a good tax payer.
Without doubt the empathy gap is very real, even to the point of the humanity of males being downgraded. Was it in 2013 that posters declaring “men’s rights are human rights” were defaced with words like “false”? I invited you to consider the implied logical corollary.
The “Genderbread” graphic illustrates how these ideologies – feminism or trans – are promoting mental ill-health. Not content with atomising society by dividing us as individuals, this presentation of the nature of a single individual even divides our own being into fragments. One might define mental, emotional and spiritual maturity as being the harmonious unity of brain, heart and genitalia – not their presentation as independent and unrelated. (See CS Lewis, Men Without Chests).
It is distressing that even conservatives who might talk sense on many issues are so blind to feminism’s true nature and implications. But that is because the traditional world was just as gynocentric as this one.
What these attitudes betray, whether of feminists or traditional conservatives, is an implicit status hierarchy. A male wishing to transition is analogous to some working class oik in the Victorian era attempting to pass himself off as something socially superior. It is simply not to be tolerated.
Oct 1, 2022·edited Oct 8, 2022Liked by Janice Fiamengo
Thanks for bringing attention to this issue of imbalanced display of empathy for MtF transpeople, Janice. As you say, most MtF have other things going on in their lives than the aim of raping or patriarchal domination of natal women - as feminists would have us believe. I'm reminded of the example of a 3 year old 'gender dysphoric' boy who said to researchers, “I hate myself. I don’t want to be me. I want to be somebody else. I want to be a girl.” [Source of quote: Sonia Marantz and Susan Coates, Mothers of Boys with Gender Identity Disorder: A Comparison of Matched Controls (1991)]
It's quite an intellectual trick to simultaneously enforce the notion that women are equal in every way with men and also to systematically remove all agency from women and girls whose action are simply the result of societal pressure, fashion magazines, and other oppressive, probably patriarchal, forces which overwhelm the morally superior sex
Oct 1, 2022·edited Oct 1, 2022Liked by Janice Fiamengo
Here in the UK "the Tavistock" a NHS mental health clinic for children and adult has just been closed. To cut a longer story short, because an inquiry found it was all to ready to give "puberty blockers" and other medical interventions to pre -teens and teens. Now this story began about 4 years ago when an earlier report highlighted that the majority of children and teens referred to the Tavistock were in fact female. I remember this in the headlines of the day and thinking that this was the beginning of the end for the then highly fashionable support for "trans" ideology. For of course since at least the 1960s to my knowledge the public perception and debate had always been about men transitioning to women. So in my teenage years I was aware my favourite travel writer Jan Morris, had been James Morris, and there were still jokes about "going to Casablanca" because the rather rudimentary surgery then used as "treatment " was not available in the UK. Throughout the carefree 70s, the rather less carefree 80s and the arrival of irresponsibility from the mid 90s the general story was that it was all about men taking a few steps further than cross dressing or drag acts. So it wasn't any surprise it continued in much the same vein in the early 21st Century. As such the adoption of the ideology by LGBT organisations such as Stonewall boosted their image as cutting edge and continued the idea of it being just one of a range of strange behaviours of males. Then came the controversy abot the Tavistock and referrals from schools and the massive tanker started to turn, because rather than being a modish Male pursuit of their "feminine side" that only boring old fashioned prudes would oppose ; the penny started to drop that it also affected girls and women. Actually following this suddenly women and feminists caught wind that not only was it something that affected females in "treatment" but that allowing people to simply "be" rather than wait til, their bits were chopped off, rather undermined a few privileges women rather liked after all. And so feminists roundly turned on their former "allies" in the LGBT etc. Camp. Explicitly laying bare in the process that its women who have extra "rights" based on sex (I have yet to see anyone protest about mens privacy or "sex based rights" either Male or female, because there are non to protect). I notice that this turn around has engendered (ha ha) feminist campaigns against "drag acts" and other forms of entertainment where men "impersonate " women. Of course there again no one is the least bit bothered about women dressing as men nor impersonating them as entertainment. Even the God like Harry Styles has hit some buffers for his effimate fashions and make up (hardly "cutting edge" to those once fans of "glam rock" and "gender bending" David Bowie). Because all of a sudden finding your feminine side is usurping female "rights".
As you say what does this illustrate ? Well that in the UK at least, the thing that most derails the great contradictions and damages of "woke" ideologies is that most deeply rooted and universal animus to protect females. I think I can confidently say that had the furore about the Tavistock not laid bare the reality that it wasn't all about chopping boys bits off, we'd still gave all our public services and institutions of education blithely insisting is all totally fine and "modern".
There can be no true understanding of the sexes until we understand how difficult it has been to shine an empathetic light on men and boys. The double standard not only remains, it remains all but entirely unquestioned.
Sure, I see that, and she seems like a good person overall. She's just an example, and not a malicious one, of our society's general inability to care as much about boys as about girls.
Although this may be tangential a recent documentary on a supposed "epidemic" of "Tourettes syndrome" amongst British teenagers. Needless to say the concern was about the rapid increases in girls. Now what was interesting was in following the stories of the selected girls. It was clear that their mothers (fathers it seems were either absent or irrelevant) and schools took a distinctly indulgent attitude. For behaviours which would certainly end up with "exclusion " from school and referral to special schools or behavioural units (something I know about from a previous job). The programme ended with an evidently exasperated NHS Consultant pinning the blame for this sudden explosion on social media sites. Interestingly all of the subjects in the documentary were "cured" as their tourettes vanished on it's own.
What struck me was the very different attitude of mothers and schools to the actual behaviours, which would have been viewed very differently and with very different consequences for boys. The reluctance to admit the obvious, that in each case the behaviour gained attention, and positive at that, at a time the girls has a stress (changing school, falling out with a friend, bad exam results) and passed as the stress abated.
Though I take the point about boys and young men and suicide, I do suspect the general lack of indulgence of boys teenage difficulties and high expectation they'll sort themselves out may actually contribute to the comparatively small number of boys who suffer from anxiety disorders and "poor mental health" compared to their female contemporaries. I think in general the boys and men who eventually present with acute distress have very real and immediate needs. But in general something seems to act as a "protective" to men and boys who are such a minority in the "walking worried" at all ages. Nature or nurture , probably a bit of both.
Janice always surprises me with her insightful perspective and informs me with arguments and evidence of which I was not aware. Sometimes I imagine I am up to speed, and then Janice goes shooting by, and I have to try to catch up. I am very grateful for her.
A great look at gynocentrism, how western society is tailored toward and focused on the needs of girls and women, not boys and men. Are you familiar with the blog, https://gynocentrism.com/ ? This blog is written by Peter Wright, who has authored some books. It all stems from Chivalry being the start of gynocentric behavior in the west, from 12th Century AD or somewhere thereabouts, as Peter Wright describes.
Also, the book, the Myth of Male Power, by Dr. Warren Farrell, explains how the average man is marginalized and just invisible.
Further, the book, "The Empathy Gap", by William Collins... http://empathygap.uk/
Also, boys' bodies? Circumcision is MALE GENITAL MUTILATION. But, who cares? Even most men don't care because they are so emotionally shut down and afraid of being vulnerable, or afraid to feel at all.
There is a company, Foregen, https://www.foregen.org/ , that is nearly in phase 3 of 3 human trials which lasts for one year, starting on April 1st 2023 - where they will be regrowing foreskins, which is healthy, densely innervated erogenous tissue, 15 square inches, with mucosal lining, fine touch receptors, ridged band, Meisner's corpuscles, and other musculature...all with the patients own body cells.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yJ0rDhoTjmA
The above is a link to the intro video of this biotech company that is currently in phase 2 of 3 animal trials and has received over $1.3 Million dollars of donations, and that number is many months old. All trials have been successful so far, and the underlying technology (ECM, extracellular matrix technology) is already FDA approved, they just need this particular application of this already approved technology to be approved!
I saw a post on Facebook from the Telegraph of a young man that was raped by a young woman, and there was 1000 laughing emojis, mostly from men! This is the link to the FB Page below - I can't get the direct link to the post for some reason:
https://www.facebook.com/domesticviolenceawarenessaustralia
We teach men to "be tough", and by that, we tell them to suppress emotion, unless it is anger, being crass, and making dark jokes of tragedy, being in touch with our grief isn't taught in western society - I've unlearned this with EMDR psychotherapy, and Somatic Experiencing, Psychedelic assisted psychotherapy, journaling, Holotropic Breathwork, etc. I feel alive. In high school, about 7 years ago, I was so numbed out, emotionally dumb, breathing in my chest, tired but wired, couldn't focus in school, got a 2.8 GPA, barely graduated. Then in college I kept a 4.0, got over $20,000 in scholarships... turned it all around. I got referred to the school psychologist once in high school, I can't remember what she even said, but they never spoke to me again...it wasn't until 4 or 5 years later that I found an EMDR therapist of my own accord after changing my diet, doing ice baths, infrared sauna etc. - most of my autoimmune symptoms were psychosomatic.
I digress - but, the boys really need help.
Back to male genital mutilation.
It's maddening to me that circumcision is a joke in crappy television and movies. It's so hurtful, and emotionally callous men make jokes about it, and so do women.
Foregen will remedy this, at least for those in the know.
The majority of nerve endings are in the foreskin, more than the head/glans of the penis! And it keeps the head of the penis soft and smooth and lubricated, instead of dried out and keratinized. Circumcisions reduces sexual pleasure for men and women.
Look at the documentary, The American Circumcision, by Brendon Marotta.
https://www.amazon.com/American-Circumcision-Marilyn-Milos/dp/B07DWBSFH4/ref=tmm_aiv_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
and the book: Circumcision: The Hidden Trauma
https://www.amazon.com/Circumcision-Hidden-Trauma-American-Ultimately/dp/0964489538/ref=d_pd_sim_sccl_2_2/135-1436324-7681556?pd_rd_w=nsJ2N&content-id=amzn1.sym.9125e5ab-ea95-44ef-9958-112d5f0f26f0&pf_rd_p=9125e5ab-ea95-44ef-9958-112d5f0f26f0&pf_rd_r=KEERXBY5CZY6M5NHN1NR&pd_rd_wg=JP9Uj&pd_rd_r=436aa4ff-bd6f-41b9-ab27-d5415b67de49&pd_rd_i=0964489538&psc=1
My parents know what they did was wrong, it happened to my dad, too. But, is in pretty deep denial about how negative the impact is, still.
The older generations are so numbed out, and much of that has to do with their upbringing and the birth/preverbal trauma of being trapped in incubators without human contact for months, the trauma that the hospital puts babies through. Hospitals have been routinely traumatizing and putting generations of American's in fight/flight/freeze mode for decades and decades.
The current medical establishment is not trauma informed.
Babies have nervous systems, you can put them in fight or flight, therefore, and they can, as a result, produce cortisol stress hormone and this stunts their development! Also, the more childhood trauma, the more autoimmune illness! Look at the San Diego Adverse Childhood Event (ACE) score study!
For more info on trauma, I work with a somatic practioner, Irene Lyon, who has a husband, Seth Lyon, and they both are knowledgeable about medical trauma, preverbal trauma, birth trauma, transgenerational trauma. All based on the work of Dr. Peter Levine, Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk (The Body Keeps the Score), Dr. Moshe Feldenkrais, Kathy Kain, Dr. Gabor Mate.
Here is a quote from Seth Lyon:
"Underneath all that, I was circumcised – an incredibly traumatic experience which linked violence and violation with the sexual organs in the somatic unconscious, and also established an unconscious hatred of the feminine because my mother did not protect me from that experience, and was reinforced by my isolation and separation from her in an incubator due to being born six weeks premature."
Source: https://www.sethlyon.com/powerful-roots-porn-addiction-can/
Even Seth, in his blog post is a bit harsh on men and I feel he is shaming men's sexuality, a bit.
Ask any sex therapist, it is known that men have more trouble communicating what they like sexually than women. Women are thought to be exploring their body if they have sex toys, but men??? They're considered "Gross".
Look at the book, "Men in Love", by Nancy Friday - she discusses how most men have had their sexuality shamed growing up, so they develop masochistic sexual kinks, some of the men like to be called dirty, then after the men are shamed, like they were growing up, they feel they have earned sex.
It's so twisted.
We have shaped boys into treating themselves like crap.
We teach girls to have boundaries, to know how to say, "no". But boys? We don't teach boundaries, we teach them to be masochistic beasts of burden.
I am so fed up with the west.
I like Jordan Peterson, but he speaks from a gynocentric frame, still - where he insinuates men serving women, almost thoughtlessly, like we're sacrificial pawns.
AND - Peterson talks about how gender transitioning is mutiliation! But he is silent on circumcision! Gabor Mate, a Jewish man, is also silent on circumcision, but he acknowledges that trauma is trapped survival stress that can occur in the womb and at birth.....
An Intactivist calls out this hypocrisy, denial and blind spot: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wXu6crUTIOY&t=106s
I wish boys were treated with respect, loved and honored as much as girls were.
The somatic experiencing practices that I'm doing have helped to heal me so much more, but there is a deep anger and grief within me that I am gradually processing.
Here is Irene Lyon's free 3 part course on Trauma, the different types of trauma, the signs of trauma, how our nervous system is wired through coregulation with our parents, caregivers, etc.
https://irenelyon.com/healing-trauma-freeresources/
Male genital mutilation is a failure of the generations of my father, my grandfather, and so on. All these quiet men, that lead quiet lives of desperation...
Saying nothing, suppressing your emotion, makes you numb and dumb. Trauma prevents you from being present, present with your loved one and with your work, etc.
Suppression is not strength. Mindfulness of the body and fully expressing and processing grief and anger, that is what is healthy. Holding it in leads to disassociation...
Jordan Peterson is with the Daily Wire, owned by Ben Shapiro, a Jewish man who thinks that circumcision is okay, but calls gender reassignment mutilation.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Ccf3T5AxeU&t=35s
Above is a video of Ben Shapiro and Andrew Yang, where they both gloss over circumcision as being a human rights violation.
So many conservatives treat boys like garbage.
Liberals want to feminize boys, and conservatives want to make boys unfeeling macho men - no care as to whether they are mutilated or not, just be a self sacrificial pawn that serves your woman and your country, a masochistic beast of burden, a walking ATM machine, a human doing not a human being, a good tax payer.
Fed up with this shit, I am.
I could say way more.
Keep up the good work, Ms. Janice Fiamengo!
Please excuse any typos.
Thanks for letting me get all this out.
Without doubt the empathy gap is very real, even to the point of the humanity of males being downgraded. Was it in 2013 that posters declaring “men’s rights are human rights” were defaced with words like “false”? I invited you to consider the implied logical corollary.
The “Genderbread” graphic illustrates how these ideologies – feminism or trans – are promoting mental ill-health. Not content with atomising society by dividing us as individuals, this presentation of the nature of a single individual even divides our own being into fragments. One might define mental, emotional and spiritual maturity as being the harmonious unity of brain, heart and genitalia – not their presentation as independent and unrelated. (See CS Lewis, Men Without Chests).
It is distressing that even conservatives who might talk sense on many issues are so blind to feminism’s true nature and implications. But that is because the traditional world was just as gynocentric as this one.
What these attitudes betray, whether of feminists or traditional conservatives, is an implicit status hierarchy. A male wishing to transition is analogous to some working class oik in the Victorian era attempting to pass himself off as something socially superior. It is simply not to be tolerated.
Thanks for bringing attention to this issue of imbalanced display of empathy for MtF transpeople, Janice. As you say, most MtF have other things going on in their lives than the aim of raping or patriarchal domination of natal women - as feminists would have us believe. I'm reminded of the example of a 3 year old 'gender dysphoric' boy who said to researchers, “I hate myself. I don’t want to be me. I want to be somebody else. I want to be a girl.” [Source of quote: Sonia Marantz and Susan Coates, Mothers of Boys with Gender Identity Disorder: A Comparison of Matched Controls (1991)]
It's worth adding that the recent death of Norah Vincent might serve as a warning to girls as to what they might be facing as a male.
Off topic but wanted to share: https://twitter.com/thisisfoster/status/1575852431090425858
It's quite an intellectual trick to simultaneously enforce the notion that women are equal in every way with men and also to systematically remove all agency from women and girls whose action are simply the result of societal pressure, fashion magazines, and other oppressive, probably patriarchal, forces which overwhelm the morally superior sex
Here in the UK "the Tavistock" a NHS mental health clinic for children and adult has just been closed. To cut a longer story short, because an inquiry found it was all to ready to give "puberty blockers" and other medical interventions to pre -teens and teens. Now this story began about 4 years ago when an earlier report highlighted that the majority of children and teens referred to the Tavistock were in fact female. I remember this in the headlines of the day and thinking that this was the beginning of the end for the then highly fashionable support for "trans" ideology. For of course since at least the 1960s to my knowledge the public perception and debate had always been about men transitioning to women. So in my teenage years I was aware my favourite travel writer Jan Morris, had been James Morris, and there were still jokes about "going to Casablanca" because the rather rudimentary surgery then used as "treatment " was not available in the UK. Throughout the carefree 70s, the rather less carefree 80s and the arrival of irresponsibility from the mid 90s the general story was that it was all about men taking a few steps further than cross dressing or drag acts. So it wasn't any surprise it continued in much the same vein in the early 21st Century. As such the adoption of the ideology by LGBT organisations such as Stonewall boosted their image as cutting edge and continued the idea of it being just one of a range of strange behaviours of males. Then came the controversy abot the Tavistock and referrals from schools and the massive tanker started to turn, because rather than being a modish Male pursuit of their "feminine side" that only boring old fashioned prudes would oppose ; the penny started to drop that it also affected girls and women. Actually following this suddenly women and feminists caught wind that not only was it something that affected females in "treatment" but that allowing people to simply "be" rather than wait til, their bits were chopped off, rather undermined a few privileges women rather liked after all. And so feminists roundly turned on their former "allies" in the LGBT etc. Camp. Explicitly laying bare in the process that its women who have extra "rights" based on sex (I have yet to see anyone protest about mens privacy or "sex based rights" either Male or female, because there are non to protect). I notice that this turn around has engendered (ha ha) feminist campaigns against "drag acts" and other forms of entertainment where men "impersonate " women. Of course there again no one is the least bit bothered about women dressing as men nor impersonating them as entertainment. Even the God like Harry Styles has hit some buffers for his effimate fashions and make up (hardly "cutting edge" to those once fans of "glam rock" and "gender bending" David Bowie). Because all of a sudden finding your feminine side is usurping female "rights".
As you say what does this illustrate ? Well that in the UK at least, the thing that most derails the great contradictions and damages of "woke" ideologies is that most deeply rooted and universal animus to protect females. I think I can confidently say that had the furore about the Tavistock not laid bare the reality that it wasn't all about chopping boys bits off, we'd still gave all our public services and institutions of education blithely insisting is all totally fine and "modern".
Janice, please write a book.
Do you think it could have anything to do with this? It's could be genetic.
I genuinely believe that much of this isn't just feminism, but female nature at work.
https://www.semanticscholar.org/paper/Gender-differences-in-automatic-in-group-bias%3A-why-Rudman-Goodwin/2c4414cde6b6a011e9f4910e6389d658278e3a7a?p2df
There can be no true understanding of the sexes until we understand how difficult it has been to shine an empathetic light on men and boys. The double standard not only remains, it remains all but entirely unquestioned.
Sure, I see that, and she seems like a good person overall. She's just an example, and not a malicious one, of our society's general inability to care as much about boys as about girls.
Although this may be tangential a recent documentary on a supposed "epidemic" of "Tourettes syndrome" amongst British teenagers. Needless to say the concern was about the rapid increases in girls. Now what was interesting was in following the stories of the selected girls. It was clear that their mothers (fathers it seems were either absent or irrelevant) and schools took a distinctly indulgent attitude. For behaviours which would certainly end up with "exclusion " from school and referral to special schools or behavioural units (something I know about from a previous job). The programme ended with an evidently exasperated NHS Consultant pinning the blame for this sudden explosion on social media sites. Interestingly all of the subjects in the documentary were "cured" as their tourettes vanished on it's own.
What struck me was the very different attitude of mothers and schools to the actual behaviours, which would have been viewed very differently and with very different consequences for boys. The reluctance to admit the obvious, that in each case the behaviour gained attention, and positive at that, at a time the girls has a stress (changing school, falling out with a friend, bad exam results) and passed as the stress abated.
Though I take the point about boys and young men and suicide, I do suspect the general lack of indulgence of boys teenage difficulties and high expectation they'll sort themselves out may actually contribute to the comparatively small number of boys who suffer from anxiety disorders and "poor mental health" compared to their female contemporaries. I think in general the boys and men who eventually present with acute distress have very real and immediate needs. But in general something seems to act as a "protective" to men and boys who are such a minority in the "walking worried" at all ages. Nature or nurture , probably a bit of both.
You are so on the money Janice. Thank you for all your hard unappreciated severely needed hard work.
As always, thank you! Great article. Although I suggest that you use this link to represent "The Future Is Female".
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sally_Miller_Gearhart#Writing
"Gearhart outlines a three-step proposal for female-led social change from her essay, "The Future–-If There Is One–-is Female":
I) Every culture must begin to affirm a female future.
II) Species responsibility must be returned to women in every culture.
III) The proportion of men must be reduced to and maintained at approximately 10% of the human race."
Oh! if only we had a crystal ball.
Part of my projection into the future will be the enormous number of court cases, dealing with the issues created today.