This is a brilliant essay. You confront an issue in which deliberate ignorance, gynocentric focus, active misandry, and fudged statistics erase male victimhood. You do so with a controlled, focused, absolutely clear anger at a fundamental injustice.
Male violence is constantly exaggerated, while female violence is minimized, ignored, and excused. This is criminal. Your voice is, alas, not as loud as it should be, but one potato after another eventually fills the sack. I am immensely grateful for your efforts, and on this Thanksgiving I give thanks for your dedication, and the urgency you bring to the support of men, and boys.
Nov 23, 2023·edited Nov 24, 2023Liked by Janice Fiamengo
Thanks for this, Janice. It is wearying to keep pointing to realities that MRAs have been been pointing to for some decades, without mainstream media coverage, but what choice do we have? I have a couple of things to add here. Firstly, one of our blog pieces (from so many) on domestic violence, with links to the Partner Abuse State of Knowledge Project 2013 (PASK13), the largest ever survey of the world literature on the subject:
Secondly, a blog piece pointing to the highest rates of domestic violence being in lesbian couples. A woman is more likely to be the victim of partner violence when her partner is a woman, than when it's a man:
Thanks Janice, for pushing through to write this. The nonsense about these issues is so exhausting. The purveyors of this anti-male rubbish are supported in every institution..universities, public administration, churches, media, etc. It is almost impossible to speak out against the overwhelming rush of irrationality and hate.
Yes, some years ago, I researched a case in Canada of a woman who paid one "hit man" to kill her nonviolent husband. That "hit man" took her $25,000C and, rather risibly, walked away. So she tried again, this time paying an undercover police officer who caught the transaction on camera. She was arrested and charged, but found not guilty by the male judge because she claimed to feel afraid of her husband. There was no evidence of his violence against her and his only violent acts had occurred many years previously in bar fights with other men, but she parlayed her feelings into an acquittal. Oddly enough, the family court reached an entirely different conclusion, giving full custody of their daughter to the husband. His new wife told me he's utterly nonviolent and that she'd never contemplate a relationship with a man who was violent.
Thank you for this important article. If one were to sit in a college bar as an impartial observer one would quickly see that women are MORE likely than men to assault people they do not know for "offending" them even when the person is not interacting with them. They feel free to lay their hands on others to express their will but will cry abuse if you tell them to stop, let alone attempt to physical restrain them. Much of the physical conflict arising between men in such situations is actually triggered by the conduct and demands of WOMEN involved. It is time as a society that we stop putting women on a pedestal and see them for who they really are.
Great piece Janice. If one has an open heart and truly wants the best for all and "equity" for men ad women, it is very difficult to stomach the one sided hateful treatment coming from these folks. This includes just about everyone from journalists to therapists, to lawyers and judges and of course the feminists. It's like dealing with the walking dead.
Thank you for standing up for those without a voice! Your voice is strong and needed.
In your discussion with Tom Golden and Carrie Gress, I think it was Tom who pointed out that when bad things happen to a woman, rather than say that is because of a bad person, they make the issue a global issue and claim that it is a cultural problem.
This is what trying to get violence against men recognised is up against.
The other extremely covert issue is how effectively the Feminist Claim makers have been in shutting down any exploration of the issue and it started with Erin Pizzey. Researchers who produced research that challenged the feminist narrative were met with death threats and other malicious claims aimed at discrediting them.
Eventually, it got to the point where researchers would not go anywhere near the topic of male victims, in addition, difficulties were encountered trying to get funding for such research.
“All violence is unacceptable and any effort to end violence is worthy,” insists that “statistics indicate that women, girls, and Two Spirit, trans, and non-binary people
Nobody, it seems, cares for what happens to men. Men are the subjects of mental, emotional, and physical abuse that never stops. Even a man defending himself against an attack by a woman can face an abuse trial for hitting the woman. Heck, even if a man defends his wife against an attack by another woman and hits that woman, he can be charged with assault.
Men have been conditioned to never hit a woman, even if some "handling" is required, he's not allowed to correct a woman's behavior. But that woman can beat her son, and knife her husband and nobody will care.
Is it any wonder that men are about to completely give up on women? Can you blame them?
The female judge in the case, Michelle Hollins, is quoted as saying that Tallow, in her lethal pummeling of the victim, “appeared to be trying to wake up a severely intoxicated Rain by punching him in the face and head over the course of 30 minutes
It never takes a dozen blows to wake a drunk person, and if it does, just let the man sleep.
If a woman commits a crime, she should face justice for it, but then justice is blind, deaf, and doesn't care about men.
The pain is real, but men don't speak about it. That's not how we work. We are expected to fix it, even when we can't.
A dismaying analysis, if not a surprising one. Thanks for getting it out, Janice. At the very least, you have stimulated some great comments, and I find them heartening and informative. Giving our community information and support of this kind is a significant contribution. I value it highly.
A short glimpse at any MSM shows female CEO's, police seniors, politicians, professionals in abundance. Uni enrolments for females in some areas are almost 100%.
Men are being eased out of senior roles, women into them, and not always on merit. Ok, maybe on merit some of the time...but who knows?
Female victims of crime receive the full regalia of media coverage, and the support of well funded government agencies. Always led by women. Male suicides are mentioned only by those kept on the fringe. Of course, any crimes by any indigenous are hushed by all.
So it is a mess of unbelief, self interest, and plain lies. Women who want power are just one part of this..they do not have any claim to special virtue.
Judge Michelle Hollins wormed her way into the justice system with the intent of overthrowing justice and replacing it with vengance. What could you say to her that would cause her to reflect on what she had done? Nothing. We know what the answer would be. 'Thousands of men, if not millions, rape women *every day* and get away with it. Sucks when it's you, doesn't it?'
Remember we were always told that the world would be a fairer, kinder, more just place with more women in power? Yeah. That really came true.
Great article, but for me the most disgusting thing about feminists, and women in general (with few exceptions), is their failure to call out violence, abuse and neglect perpetrated by women against children, including sentient unborn babies, who are the most vulnerable and innocent members of society. They avoid the topic because it would reveal the truth that women are no better than men, and their fragile egos couldn't handle that.
Even by feminist standards 'The Canadian Femicide Observatory for Justice and Accountability' is a title which chokes on its own pomposity in a manner beyond parody. An observatory, indeed. That 'justice' and 'accountability' are Black Holes to these people and feminism itself is an astronomical fraud is obvious to most with the naked eye.
When parents must come to terms with how few people in the world beyond family would demonstrate consistent non-gratuitous care and concern for any of their sons. That moment may be more endemic to our era. All the early years of loving guidance eventually overshadowed by relative cold indifference must leave some impressions.
Soon perhaps, we may be on the verge of a tipping point. The 'collective consciousness' of humanity has more so awoken during the last three years. It may come to land favourably upon the other half of humanity. Society, and the world, is not going to suddenly collapse when random isolated female death rates reach parity with that of males. Yet, the one sided narrative and grift continues.
Those fellow travelers on the road of observing humanity's specific inhumanity toward men have a knowing of what constitutes the obstacles to addressing this pattern - not only other desensitized men, but those made drunk by the wrath of their own conceit. Those considered saintly are now recognized as parasites and useful despots. Those wanting to take a bullet - they may receive what they wish for.
Will those considered routinely expendable be less so when their presence is needed most? Will the newfound heroes then milk the system for all it's worth like their professionally organized counterparts? Some, but most likely will not. Unless perceptions change the professional parasites of many stripes will continue to despitefuly use and disparage those who continually bail everyone else out.
Great blog, Janice. I can’t add any comment beyond what your readers have already written. I would, however, be interested in knowing if you or your readers had ever seen the 1974 French film “La Punition”, released in English as “The Punishment”. It was based on the bestselling story, allegedly autobiographical, by Xavière Lafont. I have not read the book but would be interested in knowing how the film differs from the story it is based on. The film gets a 4.1 star rating on IMDB.com. I would give it about twice that. I would be interested in knowing how Janice or her readers would rate it. It tells a rather grim story about a naïve French country girl, Brit (the actress who plays her, Karin Schubert, was from Hamburg, Germany) who gets into what looks like the glamorous life of a high-society hooker, then finds herself imprisoned naked in a room to satisfy the needs of repellent male clients because of offending a rich client in a trivial way. I have seen it twice, and it really merits a second viewing because the action flips back and forth between past and present in a way that makes it difficult to follow. This isn’t gratuitous artiness though. If filmed in a strictly chronological way, the early scenes would be dull, as poor Britt thinks she is going to live the high life. Near the start, the film shows the revenge killing of the man who sentences her to her punishment by another prostitute, which creates the sense of foreboding in the scenes that follow, which would otherwise be absent. In a Marxist analysis, all of the prostitutes in the film are victims, but the high-income people who live off of them are women as well as men. It is a feature film, not a feminist diatribe. November 26th marks the 79th birthday of Karin Schubert, one of the most beautiful of film actresses, with one of the most tragic histories. She made this film before turning 30, and still had a couple of decades of film-making ahead of her, but like Karen Sillas after making “What Happened Was”, she would never repeat the brilliance of her signature film. Lovely actresses seem to have a shorter shelf life, at least in serious roles, than handsome actors. Most of them don’t get to go on into old age, like Katherine Hepburn, still getting plum roles.
This is a brilliant essay. You confront an issue in which deliberate ignorance, gynocentric focus, active misandry, and fudged statistics erase male victimhood. You do so with a controlled, focused, absolutely clear anger at a fundamental injustice.
Male violence is constantly exaggerated, while female violence is minimized, ignored, and excused. This is criminal. Your voice is, alas, not as loud as it should be, but one potato after another eventually fills the sack. I am immensely grateful for your efforts, and on this Thanksgiving I give thanks for your dedication, and the urgency you bring to the support of men, and boys.
Thanks for this, Janice. It is wearying to keep pointing to realities that MRAs have been been pointing to for some decades, without mainstream media coverage, but what choice do we have? I have a couple of things to add here. Firstly, one of our blog pieces (from so many) on domestic violence, with links to the Partner Abuse State of Knowledge Project 2013 (PASK13), the largest ever survey of the world literature on the subject:
https://j4mb.org.uk/domestic-violence/
Secondly, a blog piece pointing to the highest rates of domestic violence being in lesbian couples. A woman is more likely to be the victim of partner violence when her partner is a woman, than when it's a man:
https://j4mb.org.uk/2022/12/09/are-women-more-likely-to-be-abused-in-lesbian-or-heterosexual-relationships/
Mike Buchanan
JUSTICE FOR MEN & BOYS
http://j4mb.org.uk
Thanks Janice, for pushing through to write this. The nonsense about these issues is so exhausting. The purveyors of this anti-male rubbish are supported in every institution..universities, public administration, churches, media, etc. It is almost impossible to speak out against the overwhelming rush of irrationality and hate.
But you have done. You need some coffee and care.
Yes, some years ago, I researched a case in Canada of a woman who paid one "hit man" to kill her nonviolent husband. That "hit man" took her $25,000C and, rather risibly, walked away. So she tried again, this time paying an undercover police officer who caught the transaction on camera. She was arrested and charged, but found not guilty by the male judge because she claimed to feel afraid of her husband. There was no evidence of his violence against her and his only violent acts had occurred many years previously in bar fights with other men, but she parlayed her feelings into an acquittal. Oddly enough, the family court reached an entirely different conclusion, giving full custody of their daughter to the husband. His new wife told me he's utterly nonviolent and that she'd never contemplate a relationship with a man who was violent.
Thank you for this important article. If one were to sit in a college bar as an impartial observer one would quickly see that women are MORE likely than men to assault people they do not know for "offending" them even when the person is not interacting with them. They feel free to lay their hands on others to express their will but will cry abuse if you tell them to stop, let alone attempt to physical restrain them. Much of the physical conflict arising between men in such situations is actually triggered by the conduct and demands of WOMEN involved. It is time as a society that we stop putting women on a pedestal and see them for who they really are.
Great piece Janice. If one has an open heart and truly wants the best for all and "equity" for men ad women, it is very difficult to stomach the one sided hateful treatment coming from these folks. This includes just about everyone from journalists to therapists, to lawyers and judges and of course the feminists. It's like dealing with the walking dead.
Thank you for standing up for those without a voice! Your voice is strong and needed.
In your discussion with Tom Golden and Carrie Gress, I think it was Tom who pointed out that when bad things happen to a woman, rather than say that is because of a bad person, they make the issue a global issue and claim that it is a cultural problem.
This is what trying to get violence against men recognised is up against.
The other extremely covert issue is how effectively the Feminist Claim makers have been in shutting down any exploration of the issue and it started with Erin Pizzey. Researchers who produced research that challenged the feminist narrative were met with death threats and other malicious claims aimed at discrediting them.
Eventually, it got to the point where researchers would not go anywhere near the topic of male victims, in addition, difficulties were encountered trying to get funding for such research.
“All violence is unacceptable and any effort to end violence is worthy,” insists that “statistics indicate that women, girls, and Two Spirit, trans, and non-binary people
Nobody, it seems, cares for what happens to men. Men are the subjects of mental, emotional, and physical abuse that never stops. Even a man defending himself against an attack by a woman can face an abuse trial for hitting the woman. Heck, even if a man defends his wife against an attack by another woman and hits that woman, he can be charged with assault.
Men have been conditioned to never hit a woman, even if some "handling" is required, he's not allowed to correct a woman's behavior. But that woman can beat her son, and knife her husband and nobody will care.
Is it any wonder that men are about to completely give up on women? Can you blame them?
The female judge in the case, Michelle Hollins, is quoted as saying that Tallow, in her lethal pummeling of the victim, “appeared to be trying to wake up a severely intoxicated Rain by punching him in the face and head over the course of 30 minutes
It never takes a dozen blows to wake a drunk person, and if it does, just let the man sleep.
If a woman commits a crime, she should face justice for it, but then justice is blind, deaf, and doesn't care about men.
The pain is real, but men don't speak about it. That's not how we work. We are expected to fix it, even when we can't.
A dismaying analysis, if not a surprising one. Thanks for getting it out, Janice. At the very least, you have stimulated some great comments, and I find them heartening and informative. Giving our community information and support of this kind is a significant contribution. I value it highly.
“Ottawa had 16 homicides in 2022—and nearly half of the victims were women or girls.”
That rhetorical erasure of male victims has been documented since at least the 2000s and has been criticized repeatedly:
Adam Jones - Effacing the Male: Gender, Misrepresentation, and Exclusion in the Kosovo War (2001) http://adamjones.freeservers.com/effacing.htm
ManWomanMyth - Misandry - Men Don't Exist (2015) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EkarjBm8dwo&list=PLxlwskDzJpOOx6n4AzRlBAPGc0OlLHtxf&index=70
A short glimpse at any MSM shows female CEO's, police seniors, politicians, professionals in abundance. Uni enrolments for females in some areas are almost 100%.
Men are being eased out of senior roles, women into them, and not always on merit. Ok, maybe on merit some of the time...but who knows?
Female victims of crime receive the full regalia of media coverage, and the support of well funded government agencies. Always led by women. Male suicides are mentioned only by those kept on the fringe. Of course, any crimes by any indigenous are hushed by all.
So it is a mess of unbelief, self interest, and plain lies. Women who want power are just one part of this..they do not have any claim to special virtue.
Judge Michelle Hollins wormed her way into the justice system with the intent of overthrowing justice and replacing it with vengance. What could you say to her that would cause her to reflect on what she had done? Nothing. We know what the answer would be. 'Thousands of men, if not millions, rape women *every day* and get away with it. Sucks when it's you, doesn't it?'
Remember we were always told that the world would be a fairer, kinder, more just place with more women in power? Yeah. That really came true.
Great article, but for me the most disgusting thing about feminists, and women in general (with few exceptions), is their failure to call out violence, abuse and neglect perpetrated by women against children, including sentient unborn babies, who are the most vulnerable and innocent members of society. They avoid the topic because it would reveal the truth that women are no better than men, and their fragile egos couldn't handle that.
Even by feminist standards 'The Canadian Femicide Observatory for Justice and Accountability' is a title which chokes on its own pomposity in a manner beyond parody. An observatory, indeed. That 'justice' and 'accountability' are Black Holes to these people and feminism itself is an astronomical fraud is obvious to most with the naked eye.
When parents must come to terms with how few people in the world beyond family would demonstrate consistent non-gratuitous care and concern for any of their sons. That moment may be more endemic to our era. All the early years of loving guidance eventually overshadowed by relative cold indifference must leave some impressions.
Soon perhaps, we may be on the verge of a tipping point. The 'collective consciousness' of humanity has more so awoken during the last three years. It may come to land favourably upon the other half of humanity. Society, and the world, is not going to suddenly collapse when random isolated female death rates reach parity with that of males. Yet, the one sided narrative and grift continues.
Those fellow travelers on the road of observing humanity's specific inhumanity toward men have a knowing of what constitutes the obstacles to addressing this pattern - not only other desensitized men, but those made drunk by the wrath of their own conceit. Those considered saintly are now recognized as parasites and useful despots. Those wanting to take a bullet - they may receive what they wish for.
Will those considered routinely expendable be less so when their presence is needed most? Will the newfound heroes then milk the system for all it's worth like their professionally organized counterparts? Some, but most likely will not. Unless perceptions change the professional parasites of many stripes will continue to despitefuly use and disparage those who continually bail everyone else out.
Great blog, Janice. I can’t add any comment beyond what your readers have already written. I would, however, be interested in knowing if you or your readers had ever seen the 1974 French film “La Punition”, released in English as “The Punishment”. It was based on the bestselling story, allegedly autobiographical, by Xavière Lafont. I have not read the book but would be interested in knowing how the film differs from the story it is based on. The film gets a 4.1 star rating on IMDB.com. I would give it about twice that. I would be interested in knowing how Janice or her readers would rate it. It tells a rather grim story about a naïve French country girl, Brit (the actress who plays her, Karin Schubert, was from Hamburg, Germany) who gets into what looks like the glamorous life of a high-society hooker, then finds herself imprisoned naked in a room to satisfy the needs of repellent male clients because of offending a rich client in a trivial way. I have seen it twice, and it really merits a second viewing because the action flips back and forth between past and present in a way that makes it difficult to follow. This isn’t gratuitous artiness though. If filmed in a strictly chronological way, the early scenes would be dull, as poor Britt thinks she is going to live the high life. Near the start, the film shows the revenge killing of the man who sentences her to her punishment by another prostitute, which creates the sense of foreboding in the scenes that follow, which would otherwise be absent. In a Marxist analysis, all of the prostitutes in the film are victims, but the high-income people who live off of them are women as well as men. It is a feature film, not a feminist diatribe. November 26th marks the 79th birthday of Karin Schubert, one of the most beautiful of film actresses, with one of the most tragic histories. She made this film before turning 30, and still had a couple of decades of film-making ahead of her, but like Karen Sillas after making “What Happened Was”, she would never repeat the brilliance of her signature film. Lovely actresses seem to have a shorter shelf life, at least in serious roles, than handsome actors. Most of them don’t get to go on into old age, like Katherine Hepburn, still getting plum roles.