The utter hypocrisy of the feminists is gobsmacking. Note that women's preference for high-earning men is as strong as ever, as shown in online dating surveys. Years ago I worked as an online dating coach and had to deal with all the older professional divorced women who were nicely set up having received the family home as part of the divorce settlement. Yet most were unwilling to even consider taking on a man who had less assets than their own. Many of these women had spent years depending on a man's earnings, when they had young children, but they refused to contemplate the fact that now it could be their turn.
Thanks, Bettina. I never get tired of hearing your stories about those experiences. I would like to have been a fly on the wall for some of your conversations.
Men are simply loosing trust in the women they marry and are taking pre-emptive measures. One of the things that is not publicly talked about is the number of highly skilled professionals that take off to different jurisdictions to protect themselves and future families. Or, they are simply not marrying locally. There is nothing that annoys feminists like a wife from Eastern Europe who is out earning them and treats their husband sanely.
Real Housewives syndrome...honestly the cultural messaging is complete sh#t hole. I’m sick of the Simpsons tired set up. If it were reflective of real human relations, Marge would be thick as mince, idle and entitled. Homer would be living in a shit hole and labouring to pay alimony. Brilliant tho the writing is, not once in over 30 years have the writers thought to modernize to suit our times - its a feminized show.
Oh, no--that's an 'outdated' situation. Here, let DOCTOR Naomi Wolf (professor of English Literature) set you straight on how modern older women are all looking for toy-boys to take care of.
I've been hearing a lot about this interview but haven't watched it yet--and it came just as I posted something on Twitter about the trend in TV series to show older women being pursued romantically by significantly younger men!
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Yeah, it's big on porn sites as well--even to the point of (alleged--I don't think anyone really believes it) sex with stepmoms. I've seen very little evidence of it in real life, however, at least not that it's some sort of increasing trend.
I'm not sure. I completely accepted your first proposition. A feminist friend admitted to me yesterday that she likes "a strong man" to "take care" of her. But it seems to me the desire to crush is modern development. Janice traces it back to the origins of Feminism.
And always assume projection on the part of feminists. It's a creation of those women least capable of empathy for the male condition. Their only possible resort is projection. What their theories about Patriarchy™ actually tell us are how THEY would run things given the chance.
Indeed. My friend Steve believes that denying men access to their children after divorce is an act of homicidal aggression by proxy. I find that astute.
True. I've been using the term 'recreational outrage' to describe the gleeful, hyperbolic larping of woke activism for a while, now. I really do think they do it mostly for fun.
"projection" is all part of Narcissists Personality Disorder. At its heart, I believe that feminism is toxically narcissistic, as are most of those who cleave to this faith.
What a hall of mirrors feminist ideology is, in which the terms of its own tropes are projected onto the victims of its analysis: "some bogus hegemonic definition of masculinity" indeed. As with any threat-narrative ideology, the process of abstraction and dehumanisation must be completely opaque to the indoctrinee. Beyond the socio-economic level, men are suffering because they do not belong in a world in which their constructive impulse, creative energy and expansive emotional potential have no moral currency. Physical self-destruction is simply the final acknowledgement of a category of humans already reduced to ghosts.
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I've been sneaking this dose of reality into class discussions, most recently during a discussion of The Odyssey in which a student claimed that the way women were presented in the story made her "angry." In what way were they presented that made her angry, I asked. "Seductresses, sexual objects and staying home and being chaste," she said (along these lines.) So, I asked, Penelope should have gone to fight the Trojans? Should she have taken Telemachus with her? Could she have stabbed the Cyclops in the eye -- could you? What happened to the entire crew? Were they presented favorably, unfairly?
Not only that, but what gave Odysseus the PURPOSE, the DESIRE, to make it HOME? It was Penelope. Is that a negative stereotype, what HOME means -- or shall I say -- used to mean to men who had to go out on whaling ships to harpoon whales, drag them back and gut them -- never certain whether they would make it HOME with the fuel that kept the lights going?
And what gets me most about this is that I feel so subversive for saying this. Regardless, telling the female students to imagine the inverse -- the men stay home with the babies and the women go out whaling -- seems to make the point. Or even better, the women could have worked in coal mines while the men stayed home with the children. They could have gone several feet underground to work in the dark all day, get lung disease, and die young! O, how unfairly women were treated...
Good for you. If you can say it calmly and with good humor, it is GOLD. I would always get upset discussing the issues, so I was worse than useless. (I once went off at a dissertation defense about representations of war in Canadian literature. There was a feminist critic quoted about women's suffering during wartime, and I became apoplectic. You could hear the collective intake of breath in the room. Not my best moment, for sure.)
"Beccia is confident that men are the authors of their own misfortune."
What a backhander of a comment that is.
Her writing strongly demonstrates the use of tactics involved in "Relational Aggression" and the empathy gap. She misses the point that currently she and her ilk, have continued over the decades to denigrate the male gender.
Lately, I have been hearing a lot about the "dopamine hit" and her article reads like she is seeking approval from her colleagues and when men object, she gets her "dopamine hit."
As are a lot of people, so she is not alone. The thing that astounds me is the conversations that I wish we could have had 50 years ago are now happening. I admire the way you are able to articulate a lot of the issues I have thought about over the decades but didn't have the ability to put into words.
More and more women are finding a voice, I love Pearl and the no nonsense approach she has.
Oh, her. Yeah, I've seen several of her videos. She seems a bit facile to me. She kind of reminds me of Candace Owens; someone who superficially espouses certain positions simply to carve out her own space in the media.
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Pearl says a lot of things that are true, but she is a grifter and a plagiarizer. There's a video showing that all of her questions were plagiarized from 'It's complicated channel' In fairness she did acknowledge this and gave them a plug.
Well I'm glad these wo-MEN are out there saying things that are true. Unfortunately a lot of them are just cashing in on the manospshere, One girl made a video so convincing that Paul Elam gave a hat tip to her, only to find out she was selling testosterone boosters on another platform. I wanted to believe Pearl was genuine, however there's even a video about her $MeToo ing her basketball coach, AFTER she was 18, and AFTER she was no longer his student, she has a drink with him and flirts with him, and then has him fired for reciprocating
I see your point. I was super-enthusiastic when I watched my first Pearl video. I love that she is very young and deals with relationship issues. She is also, apparently, making a video about the raw deal fathers get in divorce. I can see how she may be cashing in on the manosphere (it's way easier for a woman to say anti-feminist things and stand up for men than it is for a man)--but then again, who cares if she means what she says (even while she may make money and become famous) and has an effect? What if people start thinking differently about fathers in divorce as a result of her documentary? The possible consequences are incredibly positive.
We're up to three or four generations of boys who have grown up hearing nothing but spite and venom targeting their sex. It's in their schools, the media, institutions, governments, global agencies and even in the homes of many of them. I'm amazed young men aren't tearing our communities to pieces. Maybe we should be admiring their restraint.
I'm the same. I'll never forget watching Antifa thugs interrupt a Milo Yiannopoulos talk at De Paul University about 8 years ago. Mostly white boys in the audience, their patience and self restraint remarkable.
That clip brings me to tears. It reminds me of what happened when I opened up about certain childhood experiences. Admitting to having been sexually assaulted by a woman was all it took. "Liar" and "misogynist" they called me. Assault me they did. More than once. I'd been a feminist for decades but ended up going to the dark side never to return.
That was during the nineties. At the time I was running funding systems for schools in my state of Victoria, Australia. It coincided with the "girl friendly" changes Christina Hoff Summers detailed in "The War Against Boys". I recall quite a few colleagues warning of a very grim future for boys. I had numerous reasons to become a heretic but deliberately shackling boys to "help" girls was the last straw.
I now consider feminism to be a suicide cult and not because of it's impact on families and fertility. It has managed to kill the nascent creativity of boys without which we are ultimately doomed.
If these morons cannot understand that all the men present at that presentation wanted to do was to hear what Farrell had to say, then I can really only infer two things: (a) these women are thick as pig shit, and (b) they really shouldn’t be allowed anywhere near a university campus as they lack the intellectual capacity to undertake a degree course.
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Having read "Son's of Feminism" I agree I am amazed at their restraint, but the hidden anger leaks out in other ways, self destruction is one of them. The scariest thing is for example in schools teaching boys that they are misogynistic.
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The feminist mother's are quite thorough and effective at destroying any will in their sons to rebel against their tyranny. Just look at what happened during the lock downs? Absolutely nothing! A hundred years ago there would have been a Boston tea Party right here in Ottawa and politicians would have been hung in the streets.
If you want a good current example of the the contrast between feminist and non-feminist up bringing of boys take the one Muslim man who shot a soldier in front of the war memorial and then attempted to single handily storm parliament hill just because the government denied him a visa to travel to Afghanistan to fight with the Taliban.
Julias Ceaser said it right in the Gallic Wars. The easiest German tribes to conquer were the ones that had become effeminate "Belgae, propter ea quod a cultu at que humanitate provinciae longissime absunt, minimeque ad eos mer- catores saepe commeant atque ea quae ad effemi- nandos animos pertinent important".
Canada has become completely feminist and it has been completely conquered.
Young men in Gen Z are “tearing up their society” as demonstrated in the increasing number who refuse to date /commit to long term relationships, even to the point of avoiding sex at all, because of toxic feminism and the increased risks associated with "dating the enemy". This trend is more advanced it Savannahian countries where feminists have been complaining for years that (desirable) men don’t want to date /marry them.
I don’t know why men just don’t down tools for a month and sit back and watch as civilisation collapses. That way women might garner some sort of understanding of just how important men are and why constantly shitting on them is unjust.
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I am reminded of the speech by Col. Jessup in A Few Good Men, which captures the sacrifice of the dirty and dangerous jobs that men do, that feminists pretend do not exist, and yet which makes possible the freedom and prosperity they take for granted: "we live in a world that has walls, and those walls have to be guarded by men with guns. Who's gonna do it? You? ... I have a greater responsibility than you can possibly fathom ... my existence, while grotesque and incomprehensible to you, saves lives! You don't want the truth, because deep down in places you don't talk about at parties, you want me on that wall. You need me on that wall ... I have neither the time nor the inclination to explain myself to a man [or woman] who rises and sleeps under the blanket of the very freedom that I provide, and then questions the manner in which I provide it! I would rather you just said "thank you", and went on your way ..."
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Sweden is big on gender equity in hiring. 46% of the parliament and 50 percent of the government's cabinet is female. Up until recently, it was a Leftist government. One of its policies was to enable mass migration from war-torn nations such as Syria and Afghanistan. This resulted in a dramatic rise in sexual assaults in that country. I recall seeing a video of a teenage Swedish girl being murdered by two men from one of those countries yelling "Kill her Wallah" (i.e., kill her in the name of Allah). They jump on her head and ribs, crushing her. It really symbolizes the suicide of Europe under globalism. Feminists in charge did not turn out so well for women and girls in Western Europe, it seems (e.g., Angela Merkel also allowed in a million men from those nations, in 2015, with the same results). There is now a voter backlash in Sweden: a rejection of feminist & globalist policies in that nation - and justifiably so.
MOST sexual assaults in Sweden are FABRICATED as MOST sexual assaults in Germany and most EVERYWHERE else are FABRICATED. Likewise, I have pictures of adult wo-MEN castrating little boys in the Philipines. I also have videos of German girls bullying Arab boys and getting KARMA!
Unfortunatley the military is a bastion for the MOST RADICAL brand of fEMINISM yet. Not a fan. I'd respect Col. Jessup a whole more if he said something like: "I write wo-MEN like this: "I think of a MAN..."Then I take away accountablity & reason"
Right on point, as always. Thanks for the reference material too, just bookmarked Janet Bloomfield's article on what would happen if men stopped working.
Men should, collectively just down tools for a month and refuse to do any work at all. Very soon, you’d witness the entire collapse of western civilisation.
Beccia's perspective is that of a parasite lacking self-awareness. Her comfort is thanks to the sacrifices of men whom she laughably brands toxic. Who pays most of the taxes? Who built all of the physical infrastructure, including the house she lives in? Who invented the technologies that give her choices in life? I'm glad that she is expressing her opinion because she is demonstrating how stupid, short-sighted, hypocritical and hateful feminists are. The overwhelming majority of women want men to protect and provide for them and their children so she is arguing directly against their self-interest.
The fact that many men who suicide feel worthless isn't news and it isn't entirely due to feminism and its toxic effects on society. Early childhood trauma can instill a lifelong sense of worthlessness in a person. In my case, being separated from my mother at birth and adopted at six weeks of age to serve the psychological and emotional needs of my substitute mother produced that outcome (you become a commodity and assume you must be broken and defective). My adoptive mother's pathological need to be needed came from being abused and neglected as a child by her mother.
The trouble with childhood trauma is that it can lead to the child internalising self-beliefs and adopting coping strategies that can greatly increase the adult's risk of suicide. Feminism creates the conditions (loss of relationship, child, financial security, etc) that are more likely to lead to situational distress among men. Situational distress, coupled with vulnerabilities formed during childhood, becomes a recipe for suicide.
Adoptees are 2-4 times more likely to die by suicide than non-adoptees, but usually aren't recognised as an at-risk group, probably because adoption primarily exists to serve the interests of women. No matter how adoption is dressed up, the interests of the child are always secondary, in the same way that pet ownership is primarily driven by the needs of the pet owner.
Why is it always "women and children"? A male has to grow up and exit the entitled class of "women and children", but a female remains in the same class as "children" for her entire life and consequently never has to grow up.
In Australia it's "women and THEIR children". Note it doesn't refer to "mothers". The framing positions children as the possessions of women regardless of parental status and enables them to use children as shields.
Notably global agencies and nation states are busily changing all the "women and children" agendas to "women and girls". Boys are now officially on their own. About the only interest global institutions have in boys these days is cutting bits off their dicks.
I noticed! I work at a large international tech company. The campus I work at is quite large and has a large cafeteria. The other day I walked into the the cafeteria to get a fork to eat as I usually eat my lunch at my desk. The cafeteria was filled with school girls! Just school girls no boys. They were playing some kind of pop music. I though my company was hosting Epstein festival!
It turns out they put on a event every year for girls interested in tech careers. Just girls. There is no corresponding event for boys.
I was threatened with arrest and prosecution for filing a regulatory complaint against a female health professional and telling her I would sue her in court for damages. The Toronto Police detective emailed me to withdraw my complaint.
I sued the police in court, and the Judge told me that the damages are minimal. I had to settle for a few pennies because I didn't want my name publicly dragged through the mud while I was the one being threatened with prosecution for sending evidence to the health professional's regulatory body.
Upon disclosure, I obtained a copy of the police complaint, and the health professional lied on tape. There is absolutely no justice for men in Canada, and AVOID problems with feminists and feminist-minded women.
You will not get the compensation you deserve for the actions of the police here in Canada.
The funny thing with Canadian policing is that there's none to stop the constant attacks in the TTC, but Toronto Police have time and resources to police men for what they post online or what they complain about regarding public sector workers.
As always, brilliant and incisive. The whole 'feminism helps men, too' line that this writer is peddling makes me ill. Thanks for the analysis, and your honesty.
Beccia is the kind of feminist ideologue who wants to have her cake, eat it too, but also smash it in men's faces and congratulate herself for her generosity. Feminist doctrine has evolved and has been uniquely developed to ensure that she can do all three of these.
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There is, we are told, a correlation between the socially constructed limitations of masculinity and men's mental ill health. We are told that if men could break free of these limitations and, for example, talk about their feelings more, they would be in a better place. The main marker for mental ill health is the rate of suicide. For men this has been going up steadily in most western countries since the late 1990s - about 25years. (But that was a low point. The rate is still lower today than the 1960s and 70s.) And the correlation between this and 'toxic' masculinity is trotted out time and again, repeated thoughtlessly as though it were self-evident. But I can't see it.
If suicide rates are going up then, by the rules of a correlation, we would see social limitations on men's identity also going up. But that is manifestly what we do not see. Men today have much more variety and freedoms to express themselves than our fathers and grandfathers had. Everything we see, from men in public as fathers with babies, bromances, to sports stars weeping openly. Even the variety of clothes is greater - have you seen 1960s photos of men in bars; they all wear the same suit. This is not a correlation. It's freakin' obviously not. When did the world become so willingly stupid? Isn't this how evangelical religions operate? If anything it is an inverse correlation, even if there is one. If there is you could say that it is the 'lack' of masculine expectations that is causing men's ill health. Which is one of the points that Janice was making, I think.
And what makes the author of this article think women's well-being is something men should aspire to? If men's mental health is in the toilet then, by comparison, women's is round the u-bend and in the sewer. Women are more likely to attempt suicide than men. Teenage girls report much higher rates of anxiety and their use of anti-depressants is higher than ever. Women's self-reported happiness has been on a downard path for the last 60 years. Indeed Janice did an excellent Fiamengo File on the 'Paradox of female Unhappiness' - which has since been wiped by You-Tube. So the last thing men should do is aspire to be like women. So why does all this get so little coverage? Perhaps because talking about men's mental health is just an excuse for male-bashing. Talking about women's mental ill-health might cause more people to question feminism. As much as I don't regard Louise Perry or Mary Harrington they are dipping their toe into this area. Any time women's mental health does get coverage the blame is always pointed at society. And for girls it's alway social media. Followed by calls for more restrictions and censorship. Apparently socially constructed limitations on masculine behaviour are fine if it's called censorship.
"Perhaps because talking about men's mental health is just an excuse for male-bashing. Talking about women's mental ill-health might cause more people to question feminism."
Capitalism is being talked about as a cause for both.
The root of modern "feminism" is found in the third chapter of the Book of Genesis. Whether one accepts the account as real or merely allegorical, the truth it contains is irrefutable. Eve's dissatisfaction with her lot in life gave rise to her desire to be "as god(s)" and her initial disobedience to the simple law that had been promulgated by God was then compounded by her desire to likewise ensnare her mate, Adam in the same deviation from God's intended plan. Contemporary feminists who are similarly discontent declare their "independence" from God's intended plan by rejecting the role intended for them as man's helpmeet. (The archaic word "helpmeet" carries with it a meaning that includes being a source of strength from one who is superior in some ways such as in Psalm 115, where God Himself is called a "helpmeet," so there is nothing connoting inferiority in that descriptor.) After rejecting the God-ordained role for her, Eve causes Adam to participate in her disobedience and the result is their mutual fall and expulsion from Eden, with all the resulting misery and travail that has been the lot of humankind down through the ages. Ironically, we now see the ultimate outworking of
"feminism" with the emergence of transsexuals who usurp the female's role and demand to be regarded as the essence of womanhood. If it were not so tragic in its implications, I would laugh uproariously at this development and regard it as just deserts for all the "feminists" left sputtering and fuming at their being once again pushed to the back of the line by a man.
I do like the idealism behind women doing more to feel useful in a typically male professions such as fixing cars, electrical stuff etc. I find it very attractive. I also find most of the women who stand up for male rights very attractive as well, but that just me. I have known women like that. But they are in the tiniest minority. The reality is a lie as is evidenced by this article and some of the fine comments below it. It does seem that these women do not wish to be treated equally, they want preferential or special treatment which is the opposite of equality Indeed!.I have heard this said before and thought it often myself. Look at one of the feminist strongholds of the MISS truths in the world today Australia where I currently reside. Here the truth is not welcome in Australia. It’s deported! Ask Katie Hopkins. In the mystical land of OZ (Australia) the illusion is more power than the truth. It’s a magic trick that the powers in charge use quite successfully. Is it possible to be strong in their feminity without being myopic? Yes. But not too popular or financially rewarding it seems. But that is not the mainstream narrative and the narrative that men are bad misogynists that are only useful for baby batter, building, and cash registers comes from the place of hate that they seem unwillingly to accept. Yes hate speech is free speech, but male hate speech is plastered across mainstream as wrong. Yet feminist hate speech more often then not is seen as the light and the way. These women and the cabal that bankroll them need to find a new religion, and a much fairer and just Messiah. Hypocrisy truely has no bounds in this world, and real truth is being murdered as I type. Ism’s are merely prisons. Perhaps the only ism that should be sold is humanism. But that won’t sell the papers they say, nor will it give the bullies in charge their mantra to “divide and conquer”. What can be done to change this I’m not sure as yet. All I know is that I’m not going to give these bitches the satisfaction of blowing my brains out in despair, nor shall I judge another men who can’t face another day. Is it so unfair to ask these women to love men as much as we truely love them? In a sane world their rage and violence must be tempered swiftly and suddenly, but this is not the world that imprisons us. Perhaps one day as United humans we will have the wisdom to look back at the history of these ages and rightfully brand them as they are “the feminist wars “. And further more, critically appraise these wars for the insanity they were . But I think we have a long road of deception to navigate through before this finally occurs.
Thanks for this. I too hope we may someday look back on these times and see them for what they were, almost inconceivably irrational and cruel and culturally self-destructive in our unjust treatment of men. I doubt it will happen in my lifetime, but fortunately one doesn't know the future.
The utter hypocrisy of the feminists is gobsmacking. Note that women's preference for high-earning men is as strong as ever, as shown in online dating surveys. Years ago I worked as an online dating coach and had to deal with all the older professional divorced women who were nicely set up having received the family home as part of the divorce settlement. Yet most were unwilling to even consider taking on a man who had less assets than their own. Many of these women had spent years depending on a man's earnings, when they had young children, but they refused to contemplate the fact that now it could be their turn.
Thanks, Bettina. I never get tired of hearing your stories about those experiences. I would like to have been a fly on the wall for some of your conversations.
Men are simply loosing trust in the women they marry and are taking pre-emptive measures. One of the things that is not publicly talked about is the number of highly skilled professionals that take off to different jurisdictions to protect themselves and future families. Or, they are simply not marrying locally. There is nothing that annoys feminists like a wife from Eastern Europe who is out earning them and treats their husband sanely.
Real Housewives syndrome...honestly the cultural messaging is complete sh#t hole. I’m sick of the Simpsons tired set up. If it were reflective of real human relations, Marge would be thick as mince, idle and entitled. Homer would be living in a shit hole and labouring to pay alimony. Brilliant tho the writing is, not once in over 30 years have the writers thought to modernize to suit our times - its a feminized show.
Oh, no--that's an 'outdated' situation. Here, let DOCTOR Naomi Wolf (professor of English Literature) set you straight on how modern older women are all looking for toy-boys to take care of.
(Sarcasm alert.)
https://youtu.be/XC-SdRzRJuU
I've been hearing a lot about this interview but haven't watched it yet--and it came just as I posted something on Twitter about the trend in TV series to show older women being pursued romantically by significantly younger men!
Yeah, it's big on porn sites as well--even to the point of (alleged--I don't think anyone really believes it) sex with stepmoms. I've seen very little evidence of it in real life, however, at least not that it's some sort of increasing trend.
Women don’t tend to think rationally when it comes to men and divorce. This Judy proves my point.
I'm not sure. I completely accepted your first proposition. A feminist friend admitted to me yesterday that she likes "a strong man" to "take care" of her. But it seems to me the desire to crush is modern development. Janice traces it back to the origins of Feminism.
I love your writing Janice. Precise, balanced, and inspiring. It is never mean spirited and honors both genders.
I'm not sure I can accept "never mean spirited." I feel pretty mean a lot of the time, but try to restrain it in my writing.
Never inappropriately mean spirited, I'd say. Tell us how you feel about Piers Morgan, for instance.
"Whatever pro-feminists advise, do the opposite"
And always assume projection on the part of feminists. It's a creation of those women least capable of empathy for the male condition. Their only possible resort is projection. What their theories about Patriarchy™ actually tell us are how THEY would run things given the chance.
Indeed. My friend Steve believes that denying men access to their children after divorce is an act of homicidal aggression by proxy. I find that astute.
If you wanted to increase the rates of male suicide you could not design anything better than our family courts.
It is also "Relational Aggression", the perfect weapon to use against mostly men.
True. I've been using the term 'recreational outrage' to describe the gleeful, hyperbolic larping of woke activism for a while, now. I really do think they do it mostly for fun.
Exactly right!
"projection" is all part of Narcissists Personality Disorder. At its heart, I believe that feminism is toxically narcissistic, as are most of those who cleave to this faith.
What a hall of mirrors feminist ideology is, in which the terms of its own tropes are projected onto the victims of its analysis: "some bogus hegemonic definition of masculinity" indeed. As with any threat-narrative ideology, the process of abstraction and dehumanisation must be completely opaque to the indoctrinee. Beyond the socio-economic level, men are suffering because they do not belong in a world in which their constructive impulse, creative energy and expansive emotional potential have no moral currency. Physical self-destruction is simply the final acknowledgement of a category of humans already reduced to ghosts.
Well said.
I've been sneaking this dose of reality into class discussions, most recently during a discussion of The Odyssey in which a student claimed that the way women were presented in the story made her "angry." In what way were they presented that made her angry, I asked. "Seductresses, sexual objects and staying home and being chaste," she said (along these lines.) So, I asked, Penelope should have gone to fight the Trojans? Should she have taken Telemachus with her? Could she have stabbed the Cyclops in the eye -- could you? What happened to the entire crew? Were they presented favorably, unfairly?
Not only that, but what gave Odysseus the PURPOSE, the DESIRE, to make it HOME? It was Penelope. Is that a negative stereotype, what HOME means -- or shall I say -- used to mean to men who had to go out on whaling ships to harpoon whales, drag them back and gut them -- never certain whether they would make it HOME with the fuel that kept the lights going?
And what gets me most about this is that I feel so subversive for saying this. Regardless, telling the female students to imagine the inverse -- the men stay home with the babies and the women go out whaling -- seems to make the point. Or even better, the women could have worked in coal mines while the men stayed home with the children. They could have gone several feet underground to work in the dark all day, get lung disease, and die young! O, how unfairly women were treated...
Good for you. If you can say it calmly and with good humor, it is GOLD. I would always get upset discussing the issues, so I was worse than useless. (I once went off at a dissertation defense about representations of war in Canadian literature. There was a feminist critic quoted about women's suffering during wartime, and I became apoplectic. You could hear the collective intake of breath in the room. Not my best moment, for sure.)
"Beccia is confident that men are the authors of their own misfortune."
What a backhander of a comment that is.
Her writing strongly demonstrates the use of tactics involved in "Relational Aggression" and the empathy gap. She misses the point that currently she and her ilk, have continued over the decades to denigrate the male gender.
Lately, I have been hearing a lot about the "dopamine hit" and her article reads like she is seeking approval from her colleagues and when men object, she gets her "dopamine hit."
She is wilfully blind to what's been going on for the past 30 years and more. Incredible.
As are a lot of people, so she is not alone. The thing that astounds me is the conversations that I wish we could have had 50 years ago are now happening. I admire the way you are able to articulate a lot of the issues I have thought about over the decades but didn't have the ability to put into words.
More and more women are finding a voice, I love Pearl and the no nonsense approach she has.
Yes, I'm a HUGE fan of Pearl too
Pearl who?
You're as out of it as I am! She's been around for years, apparently. Here is a fairly recent interview on Triggernometry:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z1Nmy7oj5kY
Oh, her. Yeah, I've seen several of her videos. She seems a bit facile to me. She kind of reminds me of Candace Owens; someone who superficially espouses certain positions simply to carve out her own space in the media.
Pearl says a lot of things that are true, but she is a grifter and a plagiarizer. There's a video showing that all of her questions were plagiarized from 'It's complicated channel' In fairness she did acknowledge this and gave them a plug.
If she acknowledges then it is not plagiarism.
I had to look up 'Grifter' and I don't believe that she is one, but then you may see something that I don't.
Well I'm glad these wo-MEN are out there saying things that are true. Unfortunately a lot of them are just cashing in on the manospshere, One girl made a video so convincing that Paul Elam gave a hat tip to her, only to find out she was selling testosterone boosters on another platform. I wanted to believe Pearl was genuine, however there's even a video about her $MeToo ing her basketball coach, AFTER she was 18, and AFTER she was no longer his student, she has a drink with him and flirts with him, and then has him fired for reciprocating
I see your point. I was super-enthusiastic when I watched my first Pearl video. I love that she is very young and deals with relationship issues. She is also, apparently, making a video about the raw deal fathers get in divorce. I can see how she may be cashing in on the manosphere (it's way easier for a woman to say anti-feminist things and stand up for men than it is for a man)--but then again, who cares if she means what she says (even while she may make money and become famous) and has an effect? What if people start thinking differently about fathers in divorce as a result of her documentary? The possible consequences are incredibly positive.
That is difficult and interesting. I made a few mistakes when I was younger and still do. I suffer from foot in mouth frequently.
I agree with you about ackowledging her sources skirts around direct plagiarism
quote< I probably plagiarise a few bit >unquote.
In reality, every one of us perhaps plagiarises without even being aware that we are doing it.
Could you imagine how unpleasant conversations would be with the quote < > unquote at the beginning and end of every sentence?
I don't remember all my sources.
We're up to three or four generations of boys who have grown up hearing nothing but spite and venom targeting their sex. It's in their schools, the media, institutions, governments, global agencies and even in the homes of many of them. I'm amazed young men aren't tearing our communities to pieces. Maybe we should be admiring their restraint.
I'm the same. I'll never forget watching Antifa thugs interrupt a Milo Yiannopoulos talk at De Paul University about 8 years ago. Mostly white boys in the audience, their patience and self restraint remarkable.
"the guy at the Toronto Uni Warren Farrell"
That clip brings me to tears. It reminds me of what happened when I opened up about certain childhood experiences. Admitting to having been sexually assaulted by a woman was all it took. "Liar" and "misogynist" they called me. Assault me they did. More than once. I'd been a feminist for decades but ended up going to the dark side never to return.
I'm glad you joined us on the dark side, though it can be lonely here.
That was during the nineties. At the time I was running funding systems for schools in my state of Victoria, Australia. It coincided with the "girl friendly" changes Christina Hoff Summers detailed in "The War Against Boys". I recall quite a few colleagues warning of a very grim future for boys. I had numerous reasons to become a heretic but deliberately shackling boys to "help" girls was the last straw.
I now consider feminism to be a suicide cult and not because of it's impact on families and fertility. It has managed to kill the nascent creativity of boys without which we are ultimately doomed.
If these morons cannot understand that all the men present at that presentation wanted to do was to hear what Farrell had to say, then I can really only infer two things: (a) these women are thick as pig shit, and (b) they really shouldn’t be allowed anywhere near a university campus as they lack the intellectual capacity to undertake a degree course.
Having read "Son's of Feminism" I agree I am amazed at their restraint, but the hidden anger leaks out in other ways, self destruction is one of them. The scariest thing is for example in schools teaching boys that they are misogynistic.
Agreed.
The feminist mother's are quite thorough and effective at destroying any will in their sons to rebel against their tyranny. Just look at what happened during the lock downs? Absolutely nothing! A hundred years ago there would have been a Boston tea Party right here in Ottawa and politicians would have been hung in the streets.
If you want a good current example of the the contrast between feminist and non-feminist up bringing of boys take the one Muslim man who shot a soldier in front of the war memorial and then attempted to single handily storm parliament hill just because the government denied him a visa to travel to Afghanistan to fight with the Taliban.
Julias Ceaser said it right in the Gallic Wars. The easiest German tribes to conquer were the ones that had become effeminate "Belgae, propter ea quod a cultu at que humanitate provinciae longissime absunt, minimeque ad eos mer- catores saepe commeant atque ea quae ad effemi- nandos animos pertinent important".
Canada has become completely feminist and it has been completely conquered.
No, they are teaching them they were born in the wrong body.
Young men in Gen Z are “tearing up their society” as demonstrated in the increasing number who refuse to date /commit to long term relationships, even to the point of avoiding sex at all, because of toxic feminism and the increased risks associated with "dating the enemy". This trend is more advanced it Savannahian countries where feminists have been complaining for years that (desirable) men don’t want to date /marry them.
Trust me. You don’t want to have anything at all to do with Scandinavian women.
I don’t know why men just don’t down tools for a month and sit back and watch as civilisation collapses. That way women might garner some sort of understanding of just how important men are and why constantly shitting on them is unjust.
I am reminded of the speech by Col. Jessup in A Few Good Men, which captures the sacrifice of the dirty and dangerous jobs that men do, that feminists pretend do not exist, and yet which makes possible the freedom and prosperity they take for granted: "we live in a world that has walls, and those walls have to be guarded by men with guns. Who's gonna do it? You? ... I have a greater responsibility than you can possibly fathom ... my existence, while grotesque and incomprehensible to you, saves lives! You don't want the truth, because deep down in places you don't talk about at parties, you want me on that wall. You need me on that wall ... I have neither the time nor the inclination to explain myself to a man [or woman] who rises and sleeps under the blanket of the very freedom that I provide, and then questions the manner in which I provide it! I would rather you just said "thank you", and went on your way ..."
Sweden is big on gender equity in hiring. 46% of the parliament and 50 percent of the government's cabinet is female. Up until recently, it was a Leftist government. One of its policies was to enable mass migration from war-torn nations such as Syria and Afghanistan. This resulted in a dramatic rise in sexual assaults in that country. I recall seeing a video of a teenage Swedish girl being murdered by two men from one of those countries yelling "Kill her Wallah" (i.e., kill her in the name of Allah). They jump on her head and ribs, crushing her. It really symbolizes the suicide of Europe under globalism. Feminists in charge did not turn out so well for women and girls in Western Europe, it seems (e.g., Angela Merkel also allowed in a million men from those nations, in 2015, with the same results). There is now a voter backlash in Sweden: a rejection of feminist & globalist policies in that nation - and justifiably so.
MOST sexual assaults in Sweden are FABRICATED as MOST sexual assaults in Germany and most EVERYWHERE else are FABRICATED. Likewise, I have pictures of adult wo-MEN castrating little boys in the Philipines. I also have videos of German girls bullying Arab boys and getting KARMA!
Unfortunatley the military is a bastion for the MOST RADICAL brand of fEMINISM yet. Not a fan. I'd respect Col. Jessup a whole more if he said something like: "I write wo-MEN like this: "I think of a MAN..."Then I take away accountablity & reason"
Right on point, as always. Thanks for the reference material too, just bookmarked Janet Bloomfield's article on what would happen if men stopped working.
It's the best essay I've ever read on the subject of the utter indispensibility of men.
Is this the one: https://iqfy.com/what-would-happen-if-no-men-showed-up-for-work/
That's it.
The one about the fiscal situation is good work too. I love bringing that out to destroy feminists when I engage with them: women don’t pay tax!
It makes the employed ones really angry. Most of them are so effing stupid they don’t even get the maths!
Men should, collectively just down tools for a month and refuse to do any work at all. Very soon, you’d witness the entire collapse of western civilisation.
Beccia's perspective is that of a parasite lacking self-awareness. Her comfort is thanks to the sacrifices of men whom she laughably brands toxic. Who pays most of the taxes? Who built all of the physical infrastructure, including the house she lives in? Who invented the technologies that give her choices in life? I'm glad that she is expressing her opinion because she is demonstrating how stupid, short-sighted, hypocritical and hateful feminists are. The overwhelming majority of women want men to protect and provide for them and their children so she is arguing directly against their self-interest.
The fact that many men who suicide feel worthless isn't news and it isn't entirely due to feminism and its toxic effects on society. Early childhood trauma can instill a lifelong sense of worthlessness in a person. In my case, being separated from my mother at birth and adopted at six weeks of age to serve the psychological and emotional needs of my substitute mother produced that outcome (you become a commodity and assume you must be broken and defective). My adoptive mother's pathological need to be needed came from being abused and neglected as a child by her mother.
The trouble with childhood trauma is that it can lead to the child internalising self-beliefs and adopting coping strategies that can greatly increase the adult's risk of suicide. Feminism creates the conditions (loss of relationship, child, financial security, etc) that are more likely to lead to situational distress among men. Situational distress, coupled with vulnerabilities formed during childhood, becomes a recipe for suicide.
Adoptees are 2-4 times more likely to die by suicide than non-adoptees, but usually aren't recognised as an at-risk group, probably because adoption primarily exists to serve the interests of women. No matter how adoption is dressed up, the interests of the child are always secondary, in the same way that pet ownership is primarily driven by the needs of the pet owner.
Why is it always "women and children"? A male has to grow up and exit the entitled class of "women and children", but a female remains in the same class as "children" for her entire life and consequently never has to grow up.
In Australia it's "women and THEIR children". Note it doesn't refer to "mothers". The framing positions children as the possessions of women regardless of parental status and enables them to use children as shields.
Notably global agencies and nation states are busily changing all the "women and children" agendas to "women and girls". Boys are now officially on their own. About the only interest global institutions have in boys these days is cutting bits off their dicks.
Horrible.
I noticed! I work at a large international tech company. The campus I work at is quite large and has a large cafeteria. The other day I walked into the the cafeteria to get a fork to eat as I usually eat my lunch at my desk. The cafeteria was filled with school girls! Just school girls no boys. They were playing some kind of pop music. I though my company was hosting Epstein festival!
It turns out they put on a event every year for girls interested in tech careers. Just girls. There is no corresponding event for boys.
Boys never need or deserve encouragement, it seems. Their (single) moms and feminist teachers undoubtedly coddle and praise them too much already.
"It turns out they put on a event every year for girls interested in tech careers. Just girls. There is no corresponding event for boys."
That's because the tech industry is dominated by men.
"What a disgusting human being.. obviously occupied by a Daemon"
I've labelled it "vampirism" in the past. Who else sucks the essence of others to maintain their youth?
I was threatened with arrest and prosecution for filing a regulatory complaint against a female health professional and telling her I would sue her in court for damages. The Toronto Police detective emailed me to withdraw my complaint.
I sued the police in court, and the Judge told me that the damages are minimal. I had to settle for a few pennies because I didn't want my name publicly dragged through the mud while I was the one being threatened with prosecution for sending evidence to the health professional's regulatory body.
Upon disclosure, I obtained a copy of the police complaint, and the health professional lied on tape. There is absolutely no justice for men in Canada, and AVOID problems with feminists and feminist-minded women.
You will not get the compensation you deserve for the actions of the police here in Canada.
Horrific.
The funny thing with Canadian policing is that there's none to stop the constant attacks in the TTC, but Toronto Police have time and resources to police men for what they post online or what they complain about regarding public sector workers.
As always, brilliant and incisive. The whole 'feminism helps men, too' line that this writer is peddling makes me ill. Thanks for the analysis, and your honesty.
'Feminism is about equality. Feminism is for men too.'
Take that, you chauvinists who say women can't be funny.
Beccia is the kind of feminist ideologue who wants to have her cake, eat it too, but also smash it in men's faces and congratulate herself for her generosity. Feminist doctrine has evolved and has been uniquely developed to ensure that she can do all three of these.
After experiencing this first hand for the last 5 years ongoing...I've come to realise we all have one thing in common, we all breath.
Thank you Sabrina L. and Janice Flamengo
There is, we are told, a correlation between the socially constructed limitations of masculinity and men's mental ill health. We are told that if men could break free of these limitations and, for example, talk about their feelings more, they would be in a better place. The main marker for mental ill health is the rate of suicide. For men this has been going up steadily in most western countries since the late 1990s - about 25years. (But that was a low point. The rate is still lower today than the 1960s and 70s.) And the correlation between this and 'toxic' masculinity is trotted out time and again, repeated thoughtlessly as though it were self-evident. But I can't see it.
If suicide rates are going up then, by the rules of a correlation, we would see social limitations on men's identity also going up. But that is manifestly what we do not see. Men today have much more variety and freedoms to express themselves than our fathers and grandfathers had. Everything we see, from men in public as fathers with babies, bromances, to sports stars weeping openly. Even the variety of clothes is greater - have you seen 1960s photos of men in bars; they all wear the same suit. This is not a correlation. It's freakin' obviously not. When did the world become so willingly stupid? Isn't this how evangelical religions operate? If anything it is an inverse correlation, even if there is one. If there is you could say that it is the 'lack' of masculine expectations that is causing men's ill health. Which is one of the points that Janice was making, I think.
And what makes the author of this article think women's well-being is something men should aspire to? If men's mental health is in the toilet then, by comparison, women's is round the u-bend and in the sewer. Women are more likely to attempt suicide than men. Teenage girls report much higher rates of anxiety and their use of anti-depressants is higher than ever. Women's self-reported happiness has been on a downard path for the last 60 years. Indeed Janice did an excellent Fiamengo File on the 'Paradox of female Unhappiness' - which has since been wiped by You-Tube. So the last thing men should do is aspire to be like women. So why does all this get so little coverage? Perhaps because talking about men's mental health is just an excuse for male-bashing. Talking about women's mental ill-health might cause more people to question feminism. As much as I don't regard Louise Perry or Mary Harrington they are dipping their toe into this area. Any time women's mental health does get coverage the blame is always pointed at society. And for girls it's alway social media. Followed by calls for more restrictions and censorship. Apparently socially constructed limitations on masculine behaviour are fine if it's called censorship.
Very well said--thank you.
"Perhaps because talking about men's mental health is just an excuse for male-bashing. Talking about women's mental ill-health might cause more people to question feminism."
Capitalism is being talked about as a cause for both.
The root of modern "feminism" is found in the third chapter of the Book of Genesis. Whether one accepts the account as real or merely allegorical, the truth it contains is irrefutable. Eve's dissatisfaction with her lot in life gave rise to her desire to be "as god(s)" and her initial disobedience to the simple law that had been promulgated by God was then compounded by her desire to likewise ensnare her mate, Adam in the same deviation from God's intended plan. Contemporary feminists who are similarly discontent declare their "independence" from God's intended plan by rejecting the role intended for them as man's helpmeet. (The archaic word "helpmeet" carries with it a meaning that includes being a source of strength from one who is superior in some ways such as in Psalm 115, where God Himself is called a "helpmeet," so there is nothing connoting inferiority in that descriptor.) After rejecting the God-ordained role for her, Eve causes Adam to participate in her disobedience and the result is their mutual fall and expulsion from Eden, with all the resulting misery and travail that has been the lot of humankind down through the ages. Ironically, we now see the ultimate outworking of
"feminism" with the emergence of transsexuals who usurp the female's role and demand to be regarded as the essence of womanhood. If it were not so tragic in its implications, I would laugh uproariously at this development and regard it as just deserts for all the "feminists" left sputtering and fuming at their being once again pushed to the back of the line by a man.
I do like the idealism behind women doing more to feel useful in a typically male professions such as fixing cars, electrical stuff etc. I find it very attractive. I also find most of the women who stand up for male rights very attractive as well, but that just me. I have known women like that. But they are in the tiniest minority. The reality is a lie as is evidenced by this article and some of the fine comments below it. It does seem that these women do not wish to be treated equally, they want preferential or special treatment which is the opposite of equality Indeed!.I have heard this said before and thought it often myself. Look at one of the feminist strongholds of the MISS truths in the world today Australia where I currently reside. Here the truth is not welcome in Australia. It’s deported! Ask Katie Hopkins. In the mystical land of OZ (Australia) the illusion is more power than the truth. It’s a magic trick that the powers in charge use quite successfully. Is it possible to be strong in their feminity without being myopic? Yes. But not too popular or financially rewarding it seems. But that is not the mainstream narrative and the narrative that men are bad misogynists that are only useful for baby batter, building, and cash registers comes from the place of hate that they seem unwillingly to accept. Yes hate speech is free speech, but male hate speech is plastered across mainstream as wrong. Yet feminist hate speech more often then not is seen as the light and the way. These women and the cabal that bankroll them need to find a new religion, and a much fairer and just Messiah. Hypocrisy truely has no bounds in this world, and real truth is being murdered as I type. Ism’s are merely prisons. Perhaps the only ism that should be sold is humanism. But that won’t sell the papers they say, nor will it give the bullies in charge their mantra to “divide and conquer”. What can be done to change this I’m not sure as yet. All I know is that I’m not going to give these bitches the satisfaction of blowing my brains out in despair, nor shall I judge another men who can’t face another day. Is it so unfair to ask these women to love men as much as we truely love them? In a sane world their rage and violence must be tempered swiftly and suddenly, but this is not the world that imprisons us. Perhaps one day as United humans we will have the wisdom to look back at the history of these ages and rightfully brand them as they are “the feminist wars “. And further more, critically appraise these wars for the insanity they were . But I think we have a long road of deception to navigate through before this finally occurs.
Oh Hera give me strength!
Thanks for this. I too hope we may someday look back on these times and see them for what they were, almost inconceivably irrational and cruel and culturally self-destructive in our unjust treatment of men. I doubt it will happen in my lifetime, but fortunately one doesn't know the future.